Is there anything I can do about this?

[mom2three]

What is the name of your state? KY

My son's father and stepmother are making hurtful comments about me to my son (he's 11). He has come home for the last few weekends telling me what they say. This started ever since the whole custody battle began, really. I told my son that we have no control over what they say/do and to just ignore them.

This really hurts me knowing that my son has to listen to this stuff. I personally don't care what they think or say about me, but when it comes to them bashing me to him, that's what I have the problem with.

I have never EVER in all of his 11 years talked bad about his other parents to him. Hell, I didn't even tell him about this custody battle so as to prevent him from thinking negatively about them. (of course now he knows...they told him...it was reeeeeeal fun answering questions about it )

From a legal standpoint, is there anything I can do about this? Or, should I just let it go? It's not hurting me, but I fear it's hurting him.

TIA

 

[bradybunchmom]

put dad and stepwitch in thier place

your son should tell his dad and stepmom next time they start bad mouthing you that if they dont have anything nice to say about you, then dont say anything at all, cuz he doesnt want to hear it. then he should walk away. they should get the message. its not fair to him to hear these two jackasses bad mouth his mom

 

[mom2three]

He's not comfortable with saying anything to them...he's only 11.

Any other suggestions/advice?

 

[Kansas4me]

Have him keep a journal of what is said, how it makes him feel and all. Take that to court.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? KY

My son's father and stepmother are making hurtful comments about me to my son (he's 11). He has come home for the last few weekends telling me what they say. This started ever since the whole custody battle began, really. I told my son that we have no control over what they say/do and to just ignore them.

This really hurts me knowing that my son has to listen to this stuff. I personally don't care what they think or say about me, but when it comes to them bashing me to him, that's what I have the problem with.

I have never EVER in all of his 11 years talked bad about his other parents to him. Hell, I didn't even tell him about this custody battle so as to prevent him from thinking negatively about them. (of course now he knows...they told him...it was reeeeeeal fun answering questions about it )

From a legal standpoint, is there anything I can do about this? Or, should I just let it go? It's not hurting me, but I fear it's hurting him.

TIA

Take him to counseling. 11 yr olds are in a difficult developmental stage- His self esteem is important. In counseling he will be able to address his feelings with an impartial person and learn ways to cope with the situation. If the problems continue, a therapist will be able to be an advocate in terms of the affect it has on your son- should you have to pursue the matter in court.

 

[Kansas4me]

and once again the journal will help with counseling.

 

[djohnson]

The journal will also hurt the fathers custody case. The judge want to give the child to the parent the will do the most to help the other relationship, not hurt it. Does it say anything about this in your last custody order? Anything you say or do will just make it harder on your son. Even if you say something to dad, he can get mad because son told. I know he is just 11 but maybe try to give him the backbone to correct dad politely. If nothing else I would let it go and explain and some people are just like that and you want him to grow up to be more. In a few years he will really learn to resent dad and SM for it and will see it for what it really is.