Is this elder financial abuse?

[mrbluejay]

California.

Recently my mom of 89 years old fell and had a brain bleed. She required brain surgery and was in the ICU.
My dad is 93 and has been diagnosed with dementia.

My oldest brother flew in from Hawaii to visit my mom in the hospital.
He has access to mom and dad's online retirement and bank accounts.
He also has Power of Attorney should my mom and dad pass away.

I found out recently he charged my dad's bank account over $1000.00 for his airfare to fly out to California.
He also has recorded 40 hours on an Excel spreadsheet as time he spent "helping mom and dad". (I am not sure if they have been charged money to their bank account for this yet).
There are many various other charges I have noticed on his Excel spreadsheet such as taxi fares, meals, etc.

I have two other brothers and we where shocked when we found out about this a couple days ago.

Would this be considered Elder Financial Abuse? I am considering calling Adult Protective Services.

 

[quincy]

California.

Recently my mom of 89 years old fell and had a brain bleed. She required brain surgery and was in the ICU.
My dad is 93 and has been diagnosed with dementia.

My oldest brother flew in from Hawaii to visit my mom in the hospital.
He has access to mom and dad's online retirement and bank accounts.
He also has Power of Attorney should my mom and dad pass away.

I found out recently he charged my dad's bank account over $1000.00 for his airfare to fly out to California.
He also has recorded 40 hours on an Excel spreadsheet as time he spent "helping mom and dad". (I am not sure if they have been charged money to their bank account for this yet).
There are many various other charges I have noticed on his Excel spreadsheet such as taxi fares, meals, etc.

I have two other brothers and we where shocked when we found out about this a couple days ago.

Would this be considered Elder Financial Abuse? I am considering calling Adult Protective Services.

Have you spoken to your brother about his expenses?

He should be entitled to some reimbursement if he has to be away from his home in Hawaii to take care of your parents.

Are you or either of your other brothers available (or willing) to assist with your parents’ needs at this time?

Offhand, and based strictly on what you have provided in information so far, I do not see any elder abuse.

 

[LdiJ]

California.

Recently my mom of 89 years old fell and had a brain bleed. She required brain surgery and was in the ICU.
My dad is 93 and has been diagnosed with dementia.

My oldest brother flew in from Hawaii to visit my mom in the hospital.
He has access to mom and dad's online retirement and bank accounts.
He also has Power of Attorney should my mom and dad pass away.

I found out recently he charged my dad's bank account over $1000.00 for his airfare to fly out to California.
He also has recorded 40 hours on an Excel spreadsheet as time he spent "helping mom and dad". (I am not sure if they have been charged money to their bank account for this yet).
There are many various other charges I have noticed on his Excel spreadsheet such as taxi fares, meals, etc.

I have two other brothers and we where shocked when we found out about this a couple days ago.

Would this be considered Elder Financial Abuse? I am considering calling Adult Protective Services.

A few things that you should understand:

A POA is only good while someone is alive, but unable to handle their affairs/pay their bills etc. Once they pass away the POA ends and then the estate and the executor or the administrator of the estate takes over.

Your mom was in the hospital and incapacitated and your father has dementia. Clearly neither of them were in a position to handle their affairs at that time and may not be now. Therefore, it is likely that it was appropriate for your brother to act on the POA.

It can be appropriate for someone acting as a POA to reimburse themselves for the expenses they incur in handling the affairs of the incapacitated person(s). Therefore, it is highly unlikely that it would be considered to be elder financial abuse for your brother to have reimbursed himself.

Where do the rest of you live? It seems a bit odd for someone as far away as Hawaii to be named as POA for people living in CA if there is anyone else living closer. However, it likely would be difficult or impossible to change that now, unless one of you petitioned for guardianship/financial guardianship over your parents.

All in all I don't think that your brother has done anything legally wrong and maybe not morally wrong either.

 

[mrbluejay]

A few things that you should understand:

A POA is only good while someone is alive, but unable to handle their affairs/pay their bills etc. Once they pass away the POA ends and then the estate and the executor or the administrator of the estate takes over.

Your mom was in the hospital and incapacitated and your father has dementia. Clearly neither of them were in a position to handle their affairs at that time and may not be now. Therefore, it is likely that it was appropriate for your brother to act on the POA.

It can be appropriate for someone acting as a POA to reimburse themselves for the expenses they incur in handling the affairs of the incapacitated person(s). Therefore, it is highly unlikely that it would be considered to be elder financial abuse for your brother to have reimbursed himself.

Where do the rest of you live? It seems a bit odd for someone as far away as Hawaii to be named as POA for people living in CA if there is anyone else living closer. However, it likely would be difficult or impossible to change that now, unless one of you petitioned for guardianship/financial guardianship over your parents.

All in all I don't think that your brother has done anything legally wrong and maybe not morally wrong either.

My two other brothers and I live in California.
I spent a lot of time with my visiting my parents and was there at the hospital when my mom was in the ICU.
We wanted our parents to stay in California where we could easily visit them.
My older brother from Hawaii convinced them to move to a care facility in Hawaii rather than the less expensive one near their home.
The move was very stressful for them.
My Hawaii brother arranged for my parents to pay around the $10,000/month cost which began on August 1st, and he had them leave for Hawaii August 13th.
It was my understanding that they would go directly there once they arrived.
They instead spent the rest of August at my brothers house in Hawaii, with my brother's explanation that their furniture wouldn't arrive for another 6-8 weeks.
The downstairs apartment in my brother's house where they stayed at had all the furniture such as a bed, kitchen table, couch, TV, etc.
that could have easily been temporarily sent to their residence in the care facility until their shipment arrived.
One of my California brothers saw this problem and made some phone calls and arranged rental furniture to be delivered to the facility residence September 1st and that is when my parents finally moved out of my Hawaii brother's house.
His apartment where they stayed has cement floors, granite countertops and stairs which they needed to use when they ate meals upstairs with them.
His house in the town of Waimea is also over an hour away from the closest 24 hour emergency hospital in Lihue.
They were charged for meals and services by the hour, such as cleaning, laundry, shopping, etc., at my brother's. Most of these were already covered and paid for at that time in their contract with the care facility.

 

[quincy]

My two other brothers and I live in California.
I spent a lot of time with my visiting my parents and was there at the hospital when my mom was in the ICU.
We wanted our parents to stay in California where we could easily visit them.
My older brother from Hawaii convinced them to move to a care facility in Hawaii rather than the less expensive one near their home.
The move was very stressful for them.
My Hawaii brother arranged for my parents to pay around the $10,000/month cost which began on August 1st, and he had them leave for Hawaii August 13th.
It was my understanding that they would go directly there once they arrived.
They instead spent the rest of August at my brothers house in Hawaii, with my brother's explanation that their furniture wouldn't arrive for another 6-8 weeks.
The downstairs apartment in my brother's house where they stayed at had all the furniture such as a bed, kitchen table, couch, TV, etc.
that could have easily been temporarily sent to their residence in the care facility until their shipment arrived.
One of my California brothers saw this problem and made some phone calls and arranged rental furniture to be delivered to the facility residence September 1st and that is when my parents finally moved out of my Hawaii brother's house.
His apartment where they stayed has cement floors, granite countertops and stairs which they needed to use when they ate meals upstairs with them.
His house in the town of Waimea is also over an hour away from the closest 24 hour emergency hospital in Lihue.
They were charged for meals and services by the hour, such as cleaning, laundry, shopping, etc., at my brother's. Most of these were already covered and paid for at that time in their contract with the care facility.

I don’t understand. Are your parents in California now or Hawaii?