Bluefavorite
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What is the name of your state? TN
For one year I became involved with a police officer who told me in the beginning he wanted us to move in (found out later he was married) and I thought about it except shortly after he started being abusive.
1. He met me on a call and I did not give my number to be called. A month later he texted me, i never knew him prior.
2. His texts run from telling me to kill myself, wishing I would be killed, I deserved rape, and child molestation. These would happen after I walked on eggshells.
I took a step back and he tried to kill himself with pills, gained a no trespass at a family members home and the wife asked for an EPO but later dropped it since he'd be fired and have no pension .
I told the wife about the affair. I sent an email mail and said I had an affair, at first I didn't know her, I thought after that he was leaving her and I was sorry.
I also turned him in for his suicide attempt and hoped they would help him. I also supplied all my text messages. An changed my number.
Fast forward three months he and I were slowly speaking as friends (I thought). I was hoping his new doctor and meds would help him and we had some limited (no penetration) sex during this time and yes, one was in his cruiser on duty. In fact, prior we had a lot of sex on duty...his idea.
Now he is so triggered he makes up that I sleep with men that i don't, calls me names, will be sweet then flip and say to stop contacting him ever again...next day act somewhat normal. When I broke it off he told me he had put a gun in his mouth and cut his legs.
I reported it to the state police to have them check on him as I was told to do by a website for police officers.
Meanwhile, I have spoken with his wife 2 times, once 8 hours. She said she wished his suicide worked, he broke her phone, she's scared and I can have him (don't want him). We talked about other women he may be seeing with his lies to her and me and I told her she should try to get counseling. She said she wanted his pension in divorce so for me not to turn him in. These are all texts. Then she wanted me to set him up so I could meet him, tell her so she can could catch him.
The next day I said no I would not set him up and she called me a b*tch, said I ruined his family and our plan?? And to never contact her again. Of course I responded and said it was a terrible idea and I wasn't helping her set him up. That I felt it was wrong and I cared enough for tje jerk to not intentionally hurt him. But I was done with him.
A week later he asks me to have sex in outdoor places and asks me to meet him on duty. I said no and if he wanted sex he'd need a condom as I got tested and was clean and after talking to his wife, I am not sure what he does. He refused to use a condom. I refused to meet.
I texted the wife and told her he had asked me to meet, I said no, and that when I asked him use a condom he said no. I told her I had been tested and was clean but she should know he was asking me to do this and I said no. She never responded but I wanted her to know if he gave her an STD not to look at me.
Then he and I still talked on the phone, mostly he berated me and told me I belonged to him and no man could ever have me, was mad about talking to his wife, then said things will change soon and we will be together. I said no way, we can't get along don't leave you wife just for me. He then told me his wife won't let him go out without a curfew, that she questions the money he spends, that she always made him cook and clean and do his laundry. Given he had told me he put a gun in his mouth I thought her giving him a hard time might cause him more harm.
So I sent her one last message and told her he and I were NOT together, she could stop questioning him about when he leaves or spends money because he's not with me nor do I think he is with any body else. I also said with his state of mental issues maybe she could be a better wife if they was staying together.
So, I know the cop harrased me. But I'm afraid the three messages I sent his wife she might try to get me for harassment and he might go along since I broke it off AND told on him twice for suicidal behavior.
All I wanted was for people to be safe. I couldn't not say anything and I wanted out, but I've been scared of him so I didn't know how. I have nearly all my texts backed up. The wife prior to telling me she didn't want to see me again because o refused to set him up told me when I asked if it was ok to talk to her that I could talk ANY time.
I was also told she hit him after my last text to her. I have this in text message.
Did I do anything wrong, legally except have an affair with a man who is obviously abusive. I never intended to harass his wife. I only texted her to inform her that he refused to wear a condom with me (her and I felt he had other women too) and that she can stop being so hard on him, I'm out of the picture only to keep him from actually killing himself.
For one year I became involved with a police officer who told me in the beginning he wanted us to move in (found out later he was married) and I thought about it except shortly after he started being abusive.
1. He met me on a call and I did not give my number to be called. A month later he texted me, i never knew him prior.
2. His texts run from telling me to kill myself, wishing I would be killed, I deserved rape, and child molestation. These would happen after I walked on eggshells.
I took a step back and he tried to kill himself with pills, gained a no trespass at a family members home and the wife asked for an EPO but later dropped it since he'd be fired and have no pension .
I told the wife about the affair. I sent an email mail and said I had an affair, at first I didn't know her, I thought after that he was leaving her and I was sorry.
I also turned him in for his suicide attempt and hoped they would help him. I also supplied all my text messages. An changed my number.
Fast forward three months he and I were slowly speaking as friends (I thought). I was hoping his new doctor and meds would help him and we had some limited (no penetration) sex during this time and yes, one was in his cruiser on duty. In fact, prior we had a lot of sex on duty...his idea.
Now he is so triggered he makes up that I sleep with men that i don't, calls me names, will be sweet then flip and say to stop contacting him ever again...next day act somewhat normal. When I broke it off he told me he had put a gun in his mouth and cut his legs.
I reported it to the state police to have them check on him as I was told to do by a website for police officers.
Meanwhile, I have spoken with his wife 2 times, once 8 hours. She said she wished his suicide worked, he broke her phone, she's scared and I can have him (don't want him). We talked about other women he may be seeing with his lies to her and me and I told her she should try to get counseling. She said she wanted his pension in divorce so for me not to turn him in. These are all texts. Then she wanted me to set him up so I could meet him, tell her so she can could catch him.
The next day I said no I would not set him up and she called me a b*tch, said I ruined his family and our plan?? And to never contact her again. Of course I responded and said it was a terrible idea and I wasn't helping her set him up. That I felt it was wrong and I cared enough for tje jerk to not intentionally hurt him. But I was done with him.
A week later he asks me to have sex in outdoor places and asks me to meet him on duty. I said no and if he wanted sex he'd need a condom as I got tested and was clean and after talking to his wife, I am not sure what he does. He refused to use a condom. I refused to meet.
I texted the wife and told her he had asked me to meet, I said no, and that when I asked him use a condom he said no. I told her I had been tested and was clean but she should know he was asking me to do this and I said no. She never responded but I wanted her to know if he gave her an STD not to look at me.
Then he and I still talked on the phone, mostly he berated me and told me I belonged to him and no man could ever have me, was mad about talking to his wife, then said things will change soon and we will be together. I said no way, we can't get along don't leave you wife just for me. He then told me his wife won't let him go out without a curfew, that she questions the money he spends, that she always made him cook and clean and do his laundry. Given he had told me he put a gun in his mouth I thought her giving him a hard time might cause him more harm.
So I sent her one last message and told her he and I were NOT together, she could stop questioning him about when he leaves or spends money because he's not with me nor do I think he is with any body else. I also said with his state of mental issues maybe she could be a better wife if they was staying together.
So, I know the cop harrased me. But I'm afraid the three messages I sent his wife she might try to get me for harassment and he might go along since I broke it off AND told on him twice for suicidal behavior.
All I wanted was for people to be safe. I couldn't not say anything and I wanted out, but I've been scared of him so I didn't know how. I have nearly all my texts backed up. The wife prior to telling me she didn't want to see me again because o refused to set him up told me when I asked if it was ok to talk to her that I could talk ANY time.
I was also told she hit him after my last text to her. I have this in text message.
Did I do anything wrong, legally except have an affair with a man who is obviously abusive. I never intended to harass his wife. I only texted her to inform her that he refused to wear a condom with me (her and I felt he had other women too) and that she can stop being so hard on him, I'm out of the picture only to keep him from actually killing himself.
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