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I am 28 (almost 29)and a single parent of 2. I recieve no child support...but that is ok. I live with my parents and my children. The original agreement when I moved back home was that I would HELP out with the houshold expenses. Now I am finding that I am turning over my entire paycheck to my mother, except a 10.00 allowance. I am not allowed to get a car, as mom says it is not fair to the house to take all that extra money away. My father makes darn good money and is more than able to keep the house running smoothly. The problem is, my mother has gotten used to a certain style of living...all off MY money. I told my parents that I will be giving them less money every week, as I want to save up for a car, and start a little nest egg. My mother responded by saying that I need to make sure what ever money I take from my check the same gets put away for my father so HE can get a new car too. She fights me every step of the way when I try and regain a little of my independence. And now, the worst thing immaginable is happening in the house. My mother is smacking my 7 yr old around. She screams at her like a mad woman, hits her sometimes uncontrollably....my mother used to beat me as a child, and I see the same pattern forming with my daughter. I am scared. I have no way to get out of the house, and I don't know where to turn.....
I know that I am not a perfect parent, and yes part of it is because of the way I was raised, I yell sometimes too much, and have been known to tan the tush of my daughter when she does really really stupid things. But my mother will hit her in the face, across the back, in the chest, over stupid things. It is affecting my daughter to the point where she raises her hands anytime mom comes near her and she is starting to do it to me if I am the least little bit upset with her, even if she did do something that is a punnishable offense, like push her brother off the back of the couch. I don't want my daughter to be affraid of me EVER! And I think my mother is getting out of hand with her. What Should I do??? How do I get out of my parents house, and what are my rights as to what I can take with me?
I know that I am not a perfect parent, and yes part of it is because of the way I was raised, I yell sometimes too much, and have been known to tan the tush of my daughter when she does really really stupid things. But my mother will hit her in the face, across the back, in the chest, over stupid things. It is affecting my daughter to the point where she raises her hands anytime mom comes near her and she is starting to do it to me if I am the least little bit upset with her, even if she did do something that is a punnishable offense, like push her brother off the back of the couch. I don't want my daughter to be affraid of me EVER! And I think my mother is getting out of hand with her. What Should I do??? How do I get out of my parents house, and what are my rights as to what I can take with me?