CJane
Senior Member
What is the name of your state? MO
I received a letter from the babydaddy's attorney today, letting me know that he received my answer and counter petition regarding our case, and including a copy of the 'Acknowledgement of Receipt of Answer' that I sent since I served him by mail.
He also says this:
How do I ensure that the baby daddy pays for the test? I want this for 2 reasons... 1) I know the kid is his. 2) I offered to have DNA testing done while we were still in the hospital and before he signed the AOP (when it would have been free), and he not only refused, he yelled at me about questioning his integrity.
If it's handled by an EMT at home... how is one sure that 1) it's the dad that is offering the sample and 2) it's the right baby? Seems pretty open to fraud on both ends.
I think that once the paternity thing is ironed out, we'll just do mediation to agree on a parenting plan since he's not asking for anything that I'm not willing to grant, and my counter petition isn't at all unreasonable. So, it's logical to assume this could all be sorted out reasonably quickly once paternity is established to baby daddy's satisfaction.
I have one more question... if I need to post it on the CS forum I will...
Child support is on hold pending a hearing re: the amount ordered (babydaddy claims it's too high) which is scheduled to take place in November. But, according to the case worker, the court that hears the paternity/visitation stuff will most likely set child support if that hearing takes place first...
In my notice re: the hearing at CSE, it states that if I have any evidence to offer at the hearing, I should make sure I copy the respondent (baby daddy) or his attorney when I send the evidence to CSE. I am now going to be paying for child care for the baby as I have a new job. I was planning to send a letter to CSE with a copy of my new pay stubs (my income will increase a bit) and a letter from the babysitter outlining her charges and ask them to consider that at the hearing. Is that appropriate, provided I copy babydaddy's attorney?
Should I also file another motion to have child support set at the visitation hearing even though we may settle things in mediation?
I received a letter from the babydaddy's attorney today, letting me know that he received my answer and counter petition regarding our case, and including a copy of the 'Acknowledgement of Receipt of Answer' that I sent since I served him by mail.
He also says this:
As I've said before, I have no issues with the DNA test. However, I don't know if I should just go with this or wait til it's ordered by the court.BABYDADDY has advised that he does want a paternity test. I will contact a firm that I use to do DNA testing. The company is very easy to work with for both parties and will even send an EMT to your home to take the samples. The samples are taken by a simple swab of the inside of the mouth, so tehre is no pain for the mino child.
If you continue to represent yourself please call me at the above numbers regarding this issue. If you do retain an attorney please have him call me to set up the testing.
How do I ensure that the baby daddy pays for the test? I want this for 2 reasons... 1) I know the kid is his. 2) I offered to have DNA testing done while we were still in the hospital and before he signed the AOP (when it would have been free), and he not only refused, he yelled at me about questioning his integrity.
If it's handled by an EMT at home... how is one sure that 1) it's the dad that is offering the sample and 2) it's the right baby? Seems pretty open to fraud on both ends.
I think that once the paternity thing is ironed out, we'll just do mediation to agree on a parenting plan since he's not asking for anything that I'm not willing to grant, and my counter petition isn't at all unreasonable. So, it's logical to assume this could all be sorted out reasonably quickly once paternity is established to baby daddy's satisfaction.
I have one more question... if I need to post it on the CS forum I will...
Child support is on hold pending a hearing re: the amount ordered (babydaddy claims it's too high) which is scheduled to take place in November. But, according to the case worker, the court that hears the paternity/visitation stuff will most likely set child support if that hearing takes place first...
In my notice re: the hearing at CSE, it states that if I have any evidence to offer at the hearing, I should make sure I copy the respondent (baby daddy) or his attorney when I send the evidence to CSE. I am now going to be paying for child care for the baby as I have a new job. I was planning to send a letter to CSE with a copy of my new pay stubs (my income will increase a bit) and a letter from the babysitter outlining her charges and ask them to consider that at the hearing. Is that appropriate, provided I copy babydaddy's attorney?
Should I also file another motion to have child support set at the visitation hearing even though we may settle things in mediation?