Joint Legal to Sole Legal ?

[Pearl72]

What is the name of your state? Colorado

I currently have Joint Legal with my daughter's father, and since there is nothing stating who makes the final decision, I have asked to have this amended so that if we cannot agree, that there is one of us that makes the final decision (which i feel should be me since she is with me most of the time). He flat out refuses to agree to this, saying that even if he told me something, i would do what i want anyways. That is NOT my intent, we don't agree on most things right now, due to he is trying to take me to court to reverse how it is now... anyways -- I don't want to exclude him in any decisions that I try to make with him, but some things he won't agree on are just ridiculous. Example: I wanted input on some schools here where we live, and what he felt she would be better to go... he said neither, she should go to school where he lives and that is all he will agree to (excersing his joint legal) He lives an hour away! What are the chances of Sole Legal? I don't want to go that route, but I feel i may have no choice, or risk in contempt with him for petty things... ? Any ideas how to resolve this with him that is fair to us both?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Colorado

I currently have Joint Legal with my daughter's father, and since there is nothing stating who makes the final decision, I have asked to have this amended so that if we cannot agree, that there is one of us that makes the final decision (which i feel should be me since she is with me most of the time). He flat out refuses to agree to this, saying that even if he told me something, i would do what i want anyways. That is NOT my intent, we don't agree on most things right now, due to he is trying to take me to court to reverse how it is now... anyways -- I don't want to exclude him in any decisions that I try to make with him, but some things he won't agree on are just ridiculous. Example: I wanted input on some schools here where we live, and what he felt she would be better to go... he said neither, she should go to school where he lives and that is all he will agree to (excersing his joint legal) He lives an hour away! What are the chances of Sole Legal? I don't want to go that route, but I feel i may have no choice, or risk in contempt with him for petty things... ? Any ideas how to resolve this with him that is fair to us both?

Ok...the school situation is ridiculous. Unless you plan to put the child in private school the child will go to school in the community where the child primarily lives. The state controls that, not the parents. Therefore if would attempt to file contempt against you for enrolling the child in school in your community, the judge would be likely to rip him a new one.

Joint legal doesn't give him the power to refuse to agree to reasonable and normal things.....nor the power to force you into things that are not reasonable.

You don't need sole legal custody. You just need to let dad make a fool of himself in front of the judge, so that he understands what joint legal really means.