Just a simple Thanks!

[mdgtfrmhll]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

I don't post on here much; a few months ago I asked a question and was immediately sent back to reality by OG and quite a few of the other seniors. Thank you for that.

I wanted to let you know that by reading these boards the past few months I have been taught how not to communicate with Jr's father as much as I have learned how to communicate with him.

I love the fact that straight answers are given here and regardless of whether the poster chooses to feel they are being bashed or not, they are really being helped. It is much better to ask a question on here and be taken to task by the knowledgeable men and women on this board, then to walk into a court room and be handed your butt by the judge.

So I wanted to say thanks and that your advice and feedback is appreciated. I am taught something everyday and since I have been reading this forum....my relationship with Jr's father, which was pretty good to begin with, has gotten even better. So again, thanks.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[wileybunch]

I just went and read your first post to refresh my memory. If you changed from 3 months ago to realize the part you played in things and really learned since then, a big ^5 to you. You really had that sort of CP mentality that really screws kids up, not as bad as many, but you were saying all the cliche things. I'm glad you saw the light. Your son will the benefactor and you may find less drama in your life, as well.

 

[mdgtfrmhll]

I think I just needed to have that kick in the pants that sometimes everyone needs. Sometimes it is hard to see past the barriers we build for ourselves and don't realize how harmful our actions can be. Jr.'s dad and I have always worked through things....and have always been able to come to do what is best for Jr., but this year both he and I made mistakes where summer visitation was concerned. Jr. will not be put in that position again.

Thanks again for everyone's advise. This board is awesome and I am grateful that it is available.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

I don't post on here much; a few months ago I asked a question and was immediately sent back to reality by OG and quite a few of the other seniors. Thank you for that.

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Ummm, you are welcome.

 

[LdiJ]

I think I just needed to have that kick in the pants that sometimes everyone needs. Sometimes it is hard to see past the barriers we build for ourselves and don't realize how harmful our actions can be. Jr.'s dad and I have always worked through things....and have always been able to come to do what is best for Jr., but this year both he and I made mistakes where summer visitation was concerned. Jr. will not be put in that position again.

Thanks again for everyone's advise. This board is awesome and I am grateful that it is available.

In all honesty its easy to make mistakes. No parent is perfect and when you throw a divorce or unwed situation into the mix, its easy to make mistakes, even when you have the best of intentions.

I reviewed your past threads and we actually didn't give you that hard of a time, because you were actually LISTENING.

 

[wileybunch]

I think I just needed to have that kick in the pants that sometimes everyone needs. Sometimes it is hard to see past the barriers we build for ourselves and don't realize how harmful our actions can be. Jr.'s dad and I have always worked through things....and have always been able to come to do what is best for Jr., but this year both he and I made mistakes where summer visitation was concerned. Jr. will not be put in that position again.

Thanks again for everyone's advise. This board is awesome and I am grateful that it is available.

I thought I was doing pretty good with my ex, but I still think this board kept my eyes opened up and I don't think I could even THINK of doing some of the things CPs do and post about here now even if the thought crossed my mind because of really seeing through what other people do how foolish it is (and I have to live with seeing the outrageous things DH's ex does to their kids ). But, when you love your kid more than you hate your ex, as Ohiogal would say, things do come more naturally the "right" way.

I do feel sorry sometimes for newbies here because I think sometimes people really don't realize what they are doing and especially when NCP has some flaws, family and society is quick to encourage CPs to kick these parents to the curb, but that's bad advice coming from people that don't have to live with the results of their free flowing bad advice.

I wish DH's ex would visit this board.