just opinions

[penny4u]

What is the name of your state? OH

I would like any constructive opinions that anyone might have. For those of you remember my story with msdad and its complications; they still have not met the doctor put it off again because of his (my sons) emotional stability. For my son's birthday he got over 25 cards from msdads family members. My son only knows of 2 of the people who sent the cards. they came from many states and as far as cousins who must be my sons 2nd or 3rd. He even got a card from a toddler. My attorney thinks that this is "emotional blackmail" and wants to send letters out to all of them telling them to cease and desist. He basically wants to tick msdad and his family off. I'm afraid of retaliation for joint custody, since now I have sole, and he still doesn't even have legal visitation even though we are going through the doctor. Any opinions on what any of you would do in this situation is appreciated. If you don't know the story...let me know.

thanks
*Tigger...every email I send to you gets sent back to me.

 

[tigger22472]

What is the name of your state? OH

I would like any constructive opinions that anyone might have. For those of you remember my story with msdad and its complications; they still have not met the doctor put it off again because of his (my sons) emotional stability. For my son's birthday he got over 25 cards from msdads family members. My son only knows of 2 of the people who sent the cards. they came from many states and as far as cousins who must be my sons 2nd or 3rd. He even got a card from a toddler. My attorney thinks that this is "emotional blackmail" and wants to send letters out to all of them telling them to cease and desist. He basically wants to tick msdad and his family off. I'm afraid of retaliation for joint custody, since now I have sole, and he still doesn't even have legal visitation even though we are going through the doctor. Any opinions on what any of you would do in this situation is appreciated. If you don't know the story...let me know.

thanks
*Tigger...every email I send to you gets sent back to me.

First don't understand the e-mail unless somehow it's wrong.. [email protected]

As far as the rest, I agree it's emotional blackmail. However, I guess the question is, does M know that these cards came? I likely would have not shown them, at least not at this time.

 

[penny4u]

I'll try the email again...its a little juicy.

I did show M the first few after I opened them first because they were just "happy birthday nothing" messages, I've been trying to keep him calm about meeting this person. However when I got 14 cards in one day I understood what was happening...I stopped showing him any of them after that point. Remember how msdad's mom claimed to be such a perfect grandma? She sent a card with only pictures of M when he was little with her, and told him that's all he needed for a birthday gift...the pictures..

 

[tigger22472]

I'll try the email again...its a little juicy.

I did show M the first few after I opened them first because they were just "happy birthday nothing" messages, I've been trying to keep him calm about meeting this person. However when I got 14 cards in one day I understood what was happening...I stopped showing him any of them after that point. Remember how msdad's mom claimed to be such a perfect grandma? She sent a card with only pictures of M when he was little with her, and told him that's all he needed for a birthday gift...the pictures..

oh geez... yeah that's it!! Personally, I would wait on the cease and desist letters if it were me. If M doesn't know all that much then he's not being emotionally harmed by it. Fighting them could cause more problems.

I am heading out soon to a ball game so if you e-mail me it may take a while to respond.

 

[penny4u]

No worries. talk soon

 

[LdiJ]

No worries. talk soon

I agree with Tig...just don't show him the mail anymore. That solves the problem as far as your son is concerned.

Just keep them all in case you need them.

 

[Ohiogal]

More background would be nice. M's Dad's family sending cards? What is the big deal? Lots of people get tons of cards and it is NOT emotional blackmail. Look at Craig Shurgood or whatever his name was. The cards themselves mean nothing. And unless you can prove that they are emotionally harmful the court is not going to see them as anything. Why does the attorney want to do cease and desist letters? The attorney DOES NOT have the power to prohibit your son's family from sending him cards. As good as that sounds he doesn't. If there is a restraining order you can get him on a violation but in Ohio this is NOT a threat and not feasible.
Again more background -- a lot more background about this situation would be nice.

 

[Rushia]

More background would be nice. M's Dad's family sending cards? What is the big deal? Lots of people get tons of cards and it is NOT emotional blackmail. Look at Craig Shurgood or whatever his name was. The cards themselves mean nothing. And unless you can prove that they are emotionally harmful the court is not going to see them as anything. Why does the attorney want to do cease and desist letters? The attorney DOES NOT have the power to prohibit your son's family from sending him cards. As good as that sounds he doesn't. If there is a restraining order you can get him on a violation but in Ohio this is NOT a threat and not feasible.
Again more background -- a lot more background about this situation would be nice.

Ohio, you may want to look up the poster msdad. He was posting here before penny. He's a jerk. Briefly 8/9 yo child he never bothered with, but took up with a woman with children of that age. Didn't want to bother with the child until he got name change papers. Suddenly didn't like the fact that stepdad was doing his job. Big creep, look him up.