I'd strongly suggest some web support groups to help you and your family cope with all the issues you will now be facing.
There are some adoptive parents I know of who have adopted one or all of their children from "disruptions". There are situations, such as yours, where an adoption disruption has occurred and these families have adopted the child after the disruption
THis is a general reference site on disruption links:
http://www.adoption.org/adopt/adoption-disruption.php
http://www.nurtureadopt.org/af/adoptiondisruption.htm
http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/s_disrup.cfm
There are some adoptive parents I know of who have adopted one or all of their children from "disruptions". There are situations, such as yours, where an adoption disruption has occurred and these families have adopted the child after the disruption
THis is a general reference site on disruption links:
http://www.adoption.org/adopt/adoption-disruption.php
http://www.nurtureadopt.org/af/adoptiondisruption.htm
http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/s_disrup.cfm