splitfamilies
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What is the name of your state? Pennsylvania 
My husband has Primary Custody but shared legal custody of his two children. They have lived with us for 10 years. The daughter needs one on one attention and wants to live with the mother (mother signed kids over to us). We agreed to give her a chance to live at the mothers moms house if it would make her happy. The grandmother can give her the attention she needs. No matter how hard we try we can not give her enough we have 3 other kids.
We came up with an written agreement and which we state that Monday - Friday she will be staying with her grandparents for school purposes and the mom and us still have our usual custody besides that. We made very specific rules and terms that the grandmother agreed to. We have stated in the agreement that at any time the mother can not forcefully remove Amber from the grandmothers house. We want to have the mom, dad and grandmother sign in presence of a notary. The mother does not want to sign it and the grandmother wants to continue with out her.
Help if we do this the mother can walk in at any time and take Amber because we did not have her permission to do this. She has 50 % legal custody. The mother is not fit to have the daughter but would take her for child support reasons.
Also the grandmother wants us to term her as Guardian. Would that take away our rights?
Is this agreement legal if signed before notary? What should we do? We really want the daughter to be happy.
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My husband has Primary Custody but shared legal custody of his two children. They have lived with us for 10 years. The daughter needs one on one attention and wants to live with the mother (mother signed kids over to us). We agreed to give her a chance to live at the mothers moms house if it would make her happy. The grandmother can give her the attention she needs. No matter how hard we try we can not give her enough we have 3 other kids.We came up with an written agreement and which we state that Monday - Friday she will be staying with her grandparents for school purposes and the mom and us still have our usual custody besides that. We made very specific rules and terms that the grandmother agreed to. We have stated in the agreement that at any time the mother can not forcefully remove Amber from the grandmothers house. We want to have the mom, dad and grandmother sign in presence of a notary. The mother does not want to sign it and the grandmother wants to continue with out her.
Help if we do this the mother can walk in at any time and take Amber because we did not have her permission to do this. She has 50 % legal custody. The mother is not fit to have the daughter but would take her for child support reasons.
Also the grandmother wants us to term her as Guardian. Would that take away our rights?
Is this agreement legal if signed before notary? What should we do? We really want the daughter to be happy.
Help