starrsh1ne
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
Hello. I am the mother and custodial parent of a three year old girl. Her father lives in Oregon, where she was born. He left us here two years ago and filed for divorce. Original judgment was in Oregon but I filed and had the jurisdiction moved to California. We went to court in September. Instead of going in front of the judge we tried to agree. We came up with a temporary plan of 4 nights for two months in Oregon, then six nights for the next two months and then back to mediation in January. Initially we were trying to agree to her going out there every month until she starts preschool. He changed his mind and wants that to continue until she starts kindergarten.
I wanted to compromise of one week out there every other month and him coming down here the other month (he does not work currently I believe, although he will not tell me for sure.) Then a longer time in the summer months. He got very upset with me and said he will be taking me back to court unless I agree with him exactly. I then went up to how about 11 days every other month, he again said no. We are in agreement of the holiday schedule once she starts school except he wants the entire summer once she turns 8 and I would like two weeks to be able to take her somewhere.
I am trying to avoid going to court at all costs because I am honestly terrified. This arrangement seems like a lot for a three year old and I am in no way happy. He expects me to do half the travel and pay for half. I need advice on what a judge might think of this. I want to avoid court but he is not compromising and is very bitter and angry at me. Any input is welcome
Thank you,
Nicole
Hello. I am the mother and custodial parent of a three year old girl. Her father lives in Oregon, where she was born. He left us here two years ago and filed for divorce. Original judgment was in Oregon but I filed and had the jurisdiction moved to California. We went to court in September. Instead of going in front of the judge we tried to agree. We came up with a temporary plan of 4 nights for two months in Oregon, then six nights for the next two months and then back to mediation in January. Initially we were trying to agree to her going out there every month until she starts preschool. He changed his mind and wants that to continue until she starts kindergarten.
I wanted to compromise of one week out there every other month and him coming down here the other month (he does not work currently I believe, although he will not tell me for sure.) Then a longer time in the summer months. He got very upset with me and said he will be taking me back to court unless I agree with him exactly. I then went up to how about 11 days every other month, he again said no. We are in agreement of the holiday schedule once she starts school except he wants the entire summer once she turns 8 and I would like two weeks to be able to take her somewhere.
I am trying to avoid going to court at all costs because I am honestly terrified. This arrangement seems like a lot for a three year old and I am in no way happy. He expects me to do half the travel and pay for half. I need advice on what a judge might think of this. I want to avoid court but he is not compromising and is very bitter and angry at me. Any input is welcome
Thank you,
Nicole