Medicade

[krislild]

What is the name of your state? nm

My babys father is only in her life when its convient for him. My question is I dont have insurance for my daughter she has been on medicade since she was born. I was hoping to get her insurance this year but i am not going to be able to. I am in the process of renuining her medicade. Finally my question is can medicade or will medicade try to go after my ex for support. Can they locate him. I am not giving them any info and i wont. Thanks

 

[tiffy]

Why are you not going to give them any information?

 

[LdiJ]

Why are you not going to give them any information?

Because if the state goes after him for child support then he will go after her for custody and/or visitation....and she doesn't want that.

 

[Tinaa]

My hudband's ex tried that. The welfare office in NM told her she had to give up the name or no more benefits. He'd been sending CS all along and she lied and told them she was receiving nothing. They called dunning him for all the welfare she'd been getting. He proved he paid. She got off scot free with fraud because she had left the state. They will make you give up the name. I hope you haven't been lying about receiving support. The wheels turn slowly but they do turn.

And another thing...I don't think the tax payers should be paying your child's doctor bills when her father and you should be responsible.

 

[SMURFEELAW]

Just another story for the OP. My fiance got temp custody until the hearing in Oct. Well since the temp custody we got the child into school and the child turned five and we needed to get her shots. The child has state insurance but her primary care physician is 5 hours away so my fiance had to file for new insurance where we are. He went in and it turns out the ex just filed three days ago for cash assistance, food stamps, school, child care, housing help and everything else under the sun claiming she had sole custody of two children. She only has one son now and has seen her daughter all of 49 hours (at one time) since July 30 (right before she went to jail for the weekend). Well the office up here was pissed and faxed the office down there and said they were going to stop ALL her benefits for fraud. Of course we informed the system 2 1/2 years ago we had the daughter half of the time but she continued to file as she was the sole custodial parent because the original order stated that )feb 2002), the judges have all referred to it as 50/50 joint custody since june 2002. Anyway the office here said she could face jail time for fraud and will probably have to pay back the money and be suspended from receiving any assistance (even for her son whose father is no where to be found) for up to three years. Be careful, they will catch up.

 

[SMURFEELAW]

And another thing...I don't think the tax payers should be paying your child's doctor bills when her father and you should be responsible.

typically I agree 100%, but in some cases like my fiance for example he has a decent job (granted not the best but makes decent $) but this job doesn't offer benefits, my job doesn't either not that I could get her on my insurance yet anyway b/c we aren't married yet, but when we called and checked prices for insurance blue cross and others we come up with like $250 a month. That is a lot and he is in line for a job with the State which will have benefits. Children shouldn't suffer b/c parents can't afford insurance. Then again the system shouldn't be abused. In AZ he filed for an insurance throught he state that we are paying $50 a month and a $10 co-pay so it isn't completely state aid but I guess whatever isn't covered by the premium and co-pay is covered by the state.

 

[haiku]

there are a LOT of situations whereby hard working people cannot get affordable coverage for thier kids.

most states have programs in place for this. Its not welfare, and not owed back to the state if applied for honestly. it is for low income or self employed people.

the OP needs to check the "fine print" of the program she is applying for. usually it is my understanding if she is applying for benefits for HERSELF, along with the child, she will be required to name the father of the child, or be denied benfits to HERSELF. No child will be denied medical benefits for lack of a named father, using this type of state subsidized care.

 

[krislild]

I dont use food stamps or anything like that i just cant afford health insurance for my child. I planned to only use medicaid for a year but the rates for insurance are expensive. I have a decent job but i barely survive. I dont recieve any help from my ex he cant even afford himself much less a child he does not see to care to much about. I do not abuse the system, i go to school and work full time. THings are just expensive. I am going to college so that i dont have to stay on the system forever. I just need help while finishing school till Dec. 2004. Thank you very much

 

[glowgirl]

Because if the state goes after him for child support then he will go after her for custody and/or visitation....and she doesn't want that.

I was just wondering how old you baby was. Or is it you that doesn't want him to come for custody/visitation?

 

[krislild]

My little girl will be 2 in November. I dont want him to come after me for visitation. Although he may never I dont want to rock the boat. I allow my ex and his wife (who is pregnant) to see our daughter once every other week but he has not seen her in a month. He is always cancelling for one reason or another. Our daughter does not know him, she hits him every time she sees him. ( I dont promote it and I tell her no, but thats how she reacts to strangers). She does not let him touch her, or anything like that. She is a mommas girl bad.

He has bought diapers for her 1 time and they were the cheapest diapers he could find. ($4.00). I went and exchanged them because my daughter has very sensative (sp) skin and I did not wante her to break out in a rash. That is the only thing he has ever bought for her, and he complained then.

He has another child on the way, I hope he can support that child cause he has never been there for the kids he has know. (my daughter, and a son from a previous relationship ( he has never see his son).

Sorry so long I had to vent, He just boils my blood.

 

[ajfai]

If you knew he wasn't taking care of his first child (or did you know?) Why would you think that he would take care of yours?

 

[krislild]

I did not find out till I went to see a lawyer. In my oponion if he doesnt want to help take care of our daugher financially and always makes excuses not to see her. He should jsut sign his rights over and let us move on. But he seems to care more about whos winning then anything else. I just care about how things effect my daughter, all the games he plays to me are childish

 

[krislild]

Thanks for everyones advice. And a special thanks to those who understand where I am coming from. I just want my daughter to continue to be heathly and I will get insurance as soon as I can afford to. Thanks again