Medical Conditions

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? MO

What is usually considered a medical condition or issue?

My order states:

Each parent shall promptly inform the other of any medical or dental condition of thechildren observed while residing with that parent.

Backstory:

Two weeks ago, my daugter was complaining that she had a 'spot' on her knee that was a little sore. I looked at it, and it appeared to be an ingrown hair. I told her to leave it alone and let me know if it got worse.

Last week, after basketball practice on Tuesday night, she showed me the 'spot' and it was obviously infected, though not red or hot or anything... just sort of pimply looking.

So, I 'popped' it, and we put some peroxide and neosporin on it and I sent her to her Dad's on Wednesday.

Apparently, after BBall practice on Wednesday night, she showed her dad and it was swollen again.

He took her to the doctor on Thursday morning, they prescribed neosporin and said they'd do cultures to see if it was a staph infection, but not to worry.

Yesterday, the doc called w/the culture results and it IS a staph infection, but a minor one and not the antibiotic resistant kind. She's now on oral antibiotics for 10 days.

Last night, I got a letter from SH informing me that it COULD be staph (it was dated Thursday) and that his daugter or my son could have DIED because of my NEGLECT.

He also said "Why didn't you inform me of this medical condition which you observed while the child was with you?"

NOW... I KNOW we're embroiled in this crap and he's trying to build a case for contempt against me now. I'm ok with that.

But seriously... and ingrown hair? Which is ALL IT WAS until the test results came back. I don't consider an ingrown hair - infected or not - to be a medical condition.

I'm SERIOUSLY tempted to start informing him - in a weekly letter - of every pimple, ingrown nail, chapped lip, banged shin, stubbed toe, picked scab, eaten booger (I just threw that in for the gross factor)... EVERYTHING 'medical'.

But that seems overly snarky.

What say the gurus?

 

[JacobJoel]

I do snarky

if you had the time to do so, it would be vastly entertaining.

 

[wileybunch]

He needs a new hobby.
I just don't know if you should even bother responding to that where he's saying other kids could have DIED because she had something that progressed to a run of the mill easily treated staph infection. At this rate, this could get ugly depending on how your kids' skin reacts during puberty.

 

[CJane]

He needs a new hobby.
I just don't know if you should even bother responding to that where he's saying other kids could have DIED because she had something that progressed to a run of the mill easily treated staph infection. At this rate, this could get ugly depending on how your kids' skin reacts during puberty.

Heh.

That's what I was thinking. I mean, I inform him of fevers, cookie tossing, bowel issues, etc. Stuff that I think he should be warned about. But EVERYTHING? C'mon.

And, it'd be a little different if he had EVER followed the court order before this month. He actually called me on the way to the doctor on Thursday, called me AFTER the Dr appt on Thursday, and called me yesterday to give me the results of the lab tests and let me know he was going to drop off the scrip at the pharmacy... and THEN called me to tell me that he HAD dropped it off.

Honestly? FIRST TIME he's EVER done that... and we've been divorced nearly 4 years.

But yeah, this kid is either going to have my skin - I've had like 4 zits in my LIFE and all as adults or HIS skin... serious pimplage.

 

[wileybunch]

Haha! "Serious pimplage"
Had you been the parent that daughter was with when the spot became infected and didn't share that info, then I could see he had a point. But, it wasn't to that point yet (and we're talking a matter of hours here, not a condition that lasted for weeks ).

 

[LdiJ]

Heh.

That's what I was thinking. I mean, I inform him of fevers, cookie tossing, bowel issues, etc. Stuff that I think he should be warned about. But EVERYTHING? C'mon.

And, it'd be a little different if he had EVER followed the court order before this month. He actually called me on the way to the doctor on Thursday, called me AFTER the Dr appt on Thursday, and called me yesterday to give me the results of the lab tests and let me know he was going to drop off the scrip at the pharmacy... and THEN called me to tell me that he HAD dropped it off.

Honestly? FIRST TIME he's EVER done that... and we've been divorced nearly 4 years.

But yeah, this kid is either going to have my skin - I've had like 4 zits in my LIFE and all as adults or HIS skin... serious pimplage.

For the time being I would recommend being snarky. If you do that, he cannot build any kind of case. Although honestly, I don't think that he is going to get very far with that. Its going to make him look silly, (ie grasping at straws) compared to everything that you have on him.

 

[CJane]

For the time being I would recommend being snarky. If you do that, he cannot build any kind of case. Although honestly, I don't think that he is going to get very far with that. Its going to make him look silly, (ie grasping at straws) compared to everything that you have on him.

You're giving me PERMISSION to be a passive aggressive bitch? Really?


YAY!!!!!

 

[LdiJ]

You're giving me PERMISSION to be a passive aggressive bitch? Really?


YAY!!!!!

Sure am...at least until the case is over.

"Your honor, as soon as I became aware that Mr. SH felt it important to communicate things that did not appear to be a medical condition at first, I immediately started doing so."

 

[CJane]

OH!

He also said "Wild and Unruly have told me that they're not getting much sleep lately since they've begun sharing a room with Twain. Of course, they might also be watching TV late into the night, and they're not telling on themselves... but perhaps you could make arrangements for the girls to have more privacy?"

Now, I KNOW he's setting this up for when he moves and can claim bigger/nicer house and more privacy and the girls having their own rooms, etc. AND that I let them watch TV late at night... though it's amusing that now that's a maybe when in a previous letter, it was the 'reason' Unruly fell asleep in class.

Should I worry?

 

[LdiJ]

OH!

He also said "Wild and Unruly have told me that they're not getting much sleep lately since they've begun sharing a room with Twain. Of course, they might also be watching TV late into the night, and they're not telling on themselves... but perhaps you could make arrangements for the girls to have more privacy?"

Now, I KNOW he's setting this up for when he moves and can claim bigger/nicer house and more privacy and the girls having their own rooms, etc. AND that I let them watch TV late at night... though it's amusing that now that's a maybe when in a previous letter, it was the 'reason' Unruly fell asleep in class.

Should I worry?

Nah..that's nothing to worry about. You have the kids more than he does, therefore he would have to prove a significant change in circumstance to have ANY chance at prevailing, and even then his odds are slim to none. The kids sharing a room and maybe watching TV late at night are NOT changes in circumstance.

However, despite the fact that CPS was ok with them sharing a room, its probably getting somewhat close to the time when you will need to get a three bedroom.

 

[CJane]

Nah..that's nothing to worry about. You have the kids more than he does, therefore he would have to prove a significant change in circumstance to have ANY chance at prevailing, and even then his odds are slim to none. The kids sharing a room and maybe watching TV late at night are NOT changes in circumstance.

See, I KNOW that... but sometimes I need TOLD that.

Especially since I'm counting on his move to be a change in circumstance since the kids use his address for school purposes.

Though he HAS started taking them to church in the area he wants to move to so they can 'form community ties' prior to the move.

However, despite the fact that CPS was ok with them sharing a room, its probably getting somewhat close to the time when you will need to get a three bedroom.

Yeah, I know. I suppose I'll call the apt manager and see what's available when my lease is up in March. I hate moving.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? MO

What is usually considered a medical condition or issue?

My order states:

Each parent shall promptly inform the other of any medical or dental condition of thechildren observed while residing with that parent.

Backstory:

Two weeks ago, my daugter was complaining that she had a 'spot' on her knee that was a little sore. I looked at it, and it appeared to be an ingrown hair. I told her to leave it alone and let me know if it got worse.

Last week, after basketball practice on Tuesday night, she showed me the 'spot' and it was obviously infected, though not red or hot or anything... just sort of pimply looking.

So, I 'popped' it, and we put some peroxide and neosporin on it and I sent her to her Dad's on Wednesday.

Apparently, after BBall practice on Wednesday night, she showed her dad and it was swollen again.

He took her to the doctor on Thursday morning, they prescribed neosporin and said they'd do cultures to see if it was a staph infection, but not to worry.

Yesterday, the doc called w/the culture results and it IS a staph infection, but a minor one and not the antibiotic resistant kind. She's now on oral antibiotics for 10 days.

Last night, I got a letter from SH informing me that it COULD be staph (it was dated Thursday) and that his daugter or my son could have DIED because of my NEGLECT.

He also said "Why didn't you inform me of this medical condition which you observed while the child was with you?"

NOW... I KNOW we're embroiled in this crap and he's trying to build a case for contempt against me now. I'm ok with that.

But seriously... and ingrown hair? Which is ALL IT WAS until the test results came back. I don't consider an ingrown hair - infected or not - to be a medical condition.

I'm SERIOUSLY tempted to start informing him - in a weekly letter - of every pimple, ingrown nail, chapped lip, banged shin, stubbed toe, picked scab, eaten booger (I just threw that in for the gross factor)... EVERYTHING 'medical'.

But that seems overly snarky.

What say the gurus?

Short Version/Rule of Thumb: Anything that a Dr. 'recommends' or 'orders'.

 

[casa]

ie; If a Dr. didn't recommend or order it and THEN you DID NOT COMPLY...he's got Nothing.

Your best bet is ignore it all together. Do Not even respond to the insanity ~ anyone he tells the huge drama to, will look at him like he's got 3 eyes. A kid, at basketball practice, with a red spot on her knee... (He'd drop dead if he knew the condition I was in when I played some of MY basketball games! ) LOL

 

[profmum]

CJane on the staph infection I would completely ignore his taunts, because that is all they really .. sure he will make a big deal about it at your hearing... his own words will hang him...,particularly his predictions of death"!

On the sharing bedroom issue.. not an issue remotely threatening for change in custody (damn by that theory I should have 100% sole physical custody)...it might time for a bigger apt, but that only be because you think so.

Xfiles in on the path traversed by SH, and I have learnt that silence is deafening for these boys

 

[stealth2]

Of course, the solution to the complaint about possibly watching tv late at night is easy - move the tv out of the bedroom.