exgirlfriend
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Florida
I am a 25 year old girl now. I dated a boy for 3.5 years from the age of 15-18.5 . Both the same age, one month diff. We Loved each other very much, defeating the "you can not know love that young" common phrase. The relationship came to a screaming end when I was rapped and never made a claim against it. We had always said that one day far into the future that if it was meant to be we would find each other again after wounds had time to heal. Sounds like a fairy tail right? I think we all at one time have felt this way or have said this before because your first love you will never forget and you always can't help but wonder. What if this actually happened? What if your love of your life walked through your door 6-7 years later out of know where? This happened for me. Both scared, both interested, both wondering why... I wanted to hear all about the times that had past. What he had gone through in life. I had no clue, no source to ever find out about anything he had done, who he had been with after me, no clue of anything. Fresh and exciting huh? Well the third time meeting, we finally started these conversations and to my surprise he knew a lot about me... true and untrue. But one thing really really surprised me. Hurt me horribly and has since put me in a depression. He told me that he had dated a girl for 2-3 years after me and that she worked at a local hospital. She had told him that she came across my records while fileing them. She read them and told him of what she had seen. Which was that I had been in the hospital due to an extreme STD. It was sooo bad that I actually ended up there in the hospital. From what I understand she did not disclose what I had actually. Just stated that it was an STD, and very bad one! Well, I do not know who else she might have told, but I can imagine that she told at least one friend, perhaps a best friend and we all know that is enough to start a rumor. But the problem is that I know that my ex told a few people because after discussing it to mutual friends they told me that they had heard the storey all ready from my ex who had told them out of concern or embarrassment towards me. They hadn’t told me knowing how upset it would make me and it could have ruined what I wanted and they all new what I wanted. For this possible love connection to start all over again. It was then that I realized it could never be. He had made his mind up about what kind of person I must have been and be. Since he let it slip and told me of this, our speaking has stopped. I do not know why. I assume it is because he then heard the real story of why I was at this hospital. For reasons that would make any ex love feel bad for you for. How many times does a girl have to be broken down? If you know what I mean. After hearing the real and trying to forget the old and all the ifs and whats that he had heard. I for him am ruined. And I am. What can this do to your family business also... Her parents are wealthy from what I understand, and very sociable. My parents and I have always struggled. Hardworking people with a great reputation. How many people have heard this lie and decided that I am not a good person. It is a jewelry store, can I be trusted? That is our business, it’s based around trust! I am angry that this could now effect my family and what we have worked very hard for! Is this considered Slander and do I have a case? The reason I am asking is in this same conversation with the ex when I learned of this disaster we were speaking about my past experiences with harmful men, doing things I do not want to mention. He asked me why it was I never did anything about it. And that I should never again let anyone walk all over me and to from now on take charge of my life. SO that is what I would like to do for the first time in my life! Thank you for your time and any help you can lend!
I am a 25 year old girl now. I dated a boy for 3.5 years from the age of 15-18.5 . Both the same age, one month diff. We Loved each other very much, defeating the "you can not know love that young" common phrase. The relationship came to a screaming end when I was rapped and never made a claim against it. We had always said that one day far into the future that if it was meant to be we would find each other again after wounds had time to heal. Sounds like a fairy tail right? I think we all at one time have felt this way or have said this before because your first love you will never forget and you always can't help but wonder. What if this actually happened? What if your love of your life walked through your door 6-7 years later out of know where? This happened for me. Both scared, both interested, both wondering why... I wanted to hear all about the times that had past. What he had gone through in life. I had no clue, no source to ever find out about anything he had done, who he had been with after me, no clue of anything. Fresh and exciting huh? Well the third time meeting, we finally started these conversations and to my surprise he knew a lot about me... true and untrue. But one thing really really surprised me. Hurt me horribly and has since put me in a depression. He told me that he had dated a girl for 2-3 years after me and that she worked at a local hospital. She had told him that she came across my records while fileing them. She read them and told him of what she had seen. Which was that I had been in the hospital due to an extreme STD. It was sooo bad that I actually ended up there in the hospital. From what I understand she did not disclose what I had actually. Just stated that it was an STD, and very bad one! Well, I do not know who else she might have told, but I can imagine that she told at least one friend, perhaps a best friend and we all know that is enough to start a rumor. But the problem is that I know that my ex told a few people because after discussing it to mutual friends they told me that they had heard the storey all ready from my ex who had told them out of concern or embarrassment towards me. They hadn’t told me knowing how upset it would make me and it could have ruined what I wanted and they all new what I wanted. For this possible love connection to start all over again. It was then that I realized it could never be. He had made his mind up about what kind of person I must have been and be. Since he let it slip and told me of this, our speaking has stopped. I do not know why. I assume it is because he then heard the real story of why I was at this hospital. For reasons that would make any ex love feel bad for you for. How many times does a girl have to be broken down? If you know what I mean. After hearing the real and trying to forget the old and all the ifs and whats that he had heard. I for him am ruined. And I am. What can this do to your family business also... Her parents are wealthy from what I understand, and very sociable. My parents and I have always struggled. Hardworking people with a great reputation. How many people have heard this lie and decided that I am not a good person. It is a jewelry store, can I be trusted? That is our business, it’s based around trust! I am angry that this could now effect my family and what we have worked very hard for! Is this considered Slander and do I have a case? The reason I am asking is in this same conversation with the ex when I learned of this disaster we were speaking about my past experiences with harmful men, doing things I do not want to mention. He asked me why it was I never did anything about it. And that I should never again let anyone walk all over me and to from now on take charge of my life. SO that is what I would like to do for the first time in my life! Thank you for your time and any help you can lend!
