Meeting with future husband

[Rochelle]

What is the name of your state? MS

My husband's ex is getting married in July. They have been divorced for 6 years. He wants to ask for a meeting with her soon to be husband, since he will be living with my husband's daughter, and see what kind of person he is. Up until now, she wouldn't tell him what his name was or where he lived or what he does for a living. He's worried what kind of person this guy might be.

Now his ex has been no easy person to deal with. She's a teacher in an elementary school, and I wonder if the School Board knew what a nut she is if they'd want her around little kids. We are trying to take her back to court and have documented all her actions. My husband is worried that this new guy might be a bigger nut than she is, and would like to find out.

Is this asking too much or do you think it's a bad idea?

 

[stealth2]

He can always ask, but if she refuses he'll have no legal recourse.

 

[Rochelle]

I told him if he did meet with him, he'd better make sure it was in a well-lit public place so no one could say he tried to pick a fight. The reason is, once when we went to pick up his child for his weekend visitation, when my husband got to her door, her brother came out and demanded that my husband give him the child support check that my husband was going to give his ex. My husband refused and told him that he was going to give to his ex and only her. Then her brother tried to keep the child from leaving and when the child began to cry and beg, the ex's brother let her go outside but he followed my husband to the truck, daring him to turn around, saying "Give me an excuse. Just give me an excuse and I'll kick your *** right here." It was ugly. Then she calls her attorney and tells him it all happened differently and that my husband threatened her brother and so forth.

Personally, I no longer go with him on pick-ups or drop-offs. The last time, my step-daughter got out of the car and showed her mother the toe ring I'd bought her and his ex said "Well, it looks like something a Baptist would buy." I don't answer the phone when she calls, and I no longer attend any of the child's functions. It's awful, and I hate it, but it's the only way.

Once, she called my mother-in-law and said that my husband had gone into her classroom while they were out for recess and written a threatening message on the blackboard. She said they'd had to call the cops and evacuate the school. She even told their daughter that story. However, my husband was in TX at the time and could prove it. And I called the police dept where the school is, and they had no such call from the school.

 

[Boxcarbill]

I have no idea why she would agree to such thing. One only needs to read your two post to know that such a meeting would be a complete and total waste of everyone's time!