Messy Situation at Home!

[Average_Jane]

HAWAII, WAIPAHU

I have a home here in Hawaii. Lived here with my mother and my son most my life, and all his life. I work, he goes to school, my mother takes care of simple household chores. We are an average and nice, law abiding family. The house is two stories, we live in the first floor of the house. A relative lives on the second.

This woman has co-ownership of the house because her mother is dead (25%). The bills we pay for the house are under her name, so it goes through her first. We give our checks to her, and she pays the other half as she is the one that is suppose to take care of it. As of recent, we have been on the rocks as we have not been paying the bills in a timely fashion because of her. She hoards dogs on the property and uses most of the parking space and the garage and the backyard. My son cannot venture further into our own backyard because of the hoarded dogs she's chained there. She is suspected of using the checks for her own pleasure (not proven, but suspected). She is supposedly having a hard time paying bills but currently went to Las Vegas and having the time of her life there. Leaving behind unattended children in high school in the second story of the house.

My question is; assuming you have gone through such a lengthy story (of which I apologize and thank you for reading): How do we get out of this mess? IF she is using our money to go on trips, how do we stop this? WHO do we call? Do we let her just buy us out for a good price, then buy another house or place?

ANY ADVICE WILL DO! I am stressed, tired, and just speechless at what some people are capable of. Please, if you could just hand out some friendly legal advice or point a direction I should go in, I would be most appreciative.

Thank you.

 

[Ohiogal]

HAWAII, WAIPAHU

I have a home here in Hawaii. Lived here with my mother and my son most my life, and all his life. I work, he goes to school, my mother takes care of simple household chores. We are an average and nice, law abiding family. The house is two stories, we live in the first floor of the house. A relative lives on the second.

This woman has co-ownership of the house because her mother is dead (25%). The bills we pay for the house are under her name, so it goes through her first. We give our checks to her, and she pays the other half as she is the one that is suppose to take care of it. As of recent, we have been on the rocks as we have not been paying the bills in a timely fashion because of her. She hoards dogs on the property and uses most of the parking space and the garage and the backyard. My son cannot venture further into our own backyard because of the hoarded dogs she's chained there. She is suspected of using the checks for her own pleasure (not proven, but suspected). She is supposedly having a hard time paying bills but currently went to Las Vegas and having the time of her life there. Leaving behind unattended children in high school in the second story of the house.

My question is; assuming you have gone through such a lengthy story (of which I apologize and thank you for reading): How do we get out of this mess? IF she is using our money to go on trips, how do we stop this? WHO do we call? Do we let her just buy us out for a good price, then buy another house or place?

ANY ADVICE WILL DO! I am stressed, tired, and just speechless at what some people are capable of. Please, if you could just hand out some friendly legal advice or point a direction I should go in, I would be most appreciative.

Thank you.

YOu cannot force her to buy you out but you can offer to buy her out. Have you had any conversation with her about the bills or are you just making assumptions? If she is hoarding dogs on the property AND you are a co-owner of the house, then you too are hoarding dogs and can be cited for the issue. Have you considered getting the bills in your name so you can be responsible for them and not have them go through her? You cannot stop her from spending her money on the trips -- and once you give it to her it is her money. She is allowed to spend her money on whatever she chooses.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Walk away. Sign a quit claim. Motion for partition. Sell for what you can get.