I'm in the military originally from New York and still file taxes for that state. I met my wife of Philippines nationality while stationed in Japan. Utilizing a fiancé visa, I married my wife in Arizona on August 2010. We had a child in California on May 2017. I established my intent to divorce on December of 2018 while stationed in Japan for the second time. We started living in separate rooms on February 2019. We moved to Virginia November 2019 still maintaining separate rooms. I will be getting an apartment on January 18th, 2020. I believe our date of separation should be February 2019 and not January 2020. I will not wait another year to get divorced. I shouldn't be penalized for not living in separate houses due to the difficulties of military life, while trying to co-parent and be fair to my spouse. What is the fastest way to divorce? Do I have the option of filing for divorce in New York? If it has to be Virginia, how early can I file for divorce?