gapeach7400
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? GA
I live in Georgia, my ex lives in Las Vegas. We were divorced in Missouri. I have a 13 year old son and 12 year old daughter. After summer vacation, my daughter decided she wanted to stay and live with her dad. I said I didn't want her to, but my ex said that it was her decision and so she stayed. The divorce decree says we are to have joint legal custody with me having physical custody. It states that he is to pay $650 a month. Since my daughter is living with him he now only pays $400 a month for my son. The court order remains in force as before.
I would actually prefer that my daughter move back home after the school year is over, but now she has made all these friends out there and I don't if she will want to. But my ex is an airline pilot who is out of town half the time. He has a live in girlfriend who is a flight attendent, so when he's gone my daughter is take care of her. Unfortunately, the girlfriend doesn't like me so she says that I have to communicate only with my ex. So I have to email or call my ex to get info about my daughter and he usually takes about a week to get back to me. My daughter has also told me that they go out at night on the weekends sometimes and leave her at home alone, that she turns on all the lights in the house before she goes to bed because she is afraid and that they come home sometime after she is asleep.
I am going to retain the services of an attorney to try to modify the order for support because even though my daughter is living with him, I think he should be paying more than $400 for our son. He makes $175,000 a year.
My question is: can I request arrearage payment for the $250 difference in what's in the order and what he's been paying, even though my daughter is living with him. and Should I try to get my daughter back? I'm afraid it will make her mad. Her dad lives in a $450,000, with a pool and hot tub, a boat, you get the idea. She has already told my ex's girl friend once that if she came back to me she might not get to take dance lessons anymore, etc. etc. But, if she came back to live with me, I could have the order modified and he would have to pay alot more than $650 a month. The only reason he was only paying that before was that when we were originally divorced he was working for a commutor airline making only $50,000 a year. I want what is best for her. But I don't know that having a live in girlfriend take care of her is best. If they were married I'd feel better about it. Both my son and daughter tell me that they get drunk every weekend and I don't think that's the greatest thing to be around either. But they live in this great neighbor where all the houses have gates, I mean they live like rich people, well, I guess they are rich.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks to anybody who takes time out of their schedule to answer.
I live in Georgia, my ex lives in Las Vegas. We were divorced in Missouri. I have a 13 year old son and 12 year old daughter. After summer vacation, my daughter decided she wanted to stay and live with her dad. I said I didn't want her to, but my ex said that it was her decision and so she stayed. The divorce decree says we are to have joint legal custody with me having physical custody. It states that he is to pay $650 a month. Since my daughter is living with him he now only pays $400 a month for my son. The court order remains in force as before.
I would actually prefer that my daughter move back home after the school year is over, but now she has made all these friends out there and I don't if she will want to. But my ex is an airline pilot who is out of town half the time. He has a live in girlfriend who is a flight attendent, so when he's gone my daughter is take care of her. Unfortunately, the girlfriend doesn't like me so she says that I have to communicate only with my ex. So I have to email or call my ex to get info about my daughter and he usually takes about a week to get back to me. My daughter has also told me that they go out at night on the weekends sometimes and leave her at home alone, that she turns on all the lights in the house before she goes to bed because she is afraid and that they come home sometime after she is asleep.
I am going to retain the services of an attorney to try to modify the order for support because even though my daughter is living with him, I think he should be paying more than $400 for our son. He makes $175,000 a year.
My question is: can I request arrearage payment for the $250 difference in what's in the order and what he's been paying, even though my daughter is living with him. and Should I try to get my daughter back? I'm afraid it will make her mad. Her dad lives in a $450,000, with a pool and hot tub, a boat, you get the idea. She has already told my ex's girl friend once that if she came back to me she might not get to take dance lessons anymore, etc. etc. But, if she came back to live with me, I could have the order modified and he would have to pay alot more than $650 a month. The only reason he was only paying that before was that when we were originally divorced he was working for a commutor airline making only $50,000 a year. I want what is best for her. But I don't know that having a live in girlfriend take care of her is best. If they were married I'd feel better about it. Both my son and daughter tell me that they get drunk every weekend and I don't think that's the greatest thing to be around either. But they live in this great neighbor where all the houses have gates, I mean they live like rich people, well, I guess they are rich.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks to anybody who takes time out of their schedule to answer.
