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Last year my 14 year old daughter began seeing a 17 year old boy. Although I thought he was too old for her I allowed her to see him at our house only, he was not allowed to pick her up and go anywhere alone with him. (I figured it wouldn't last very long as most teenage romances don't.) To try and shorten this story she snuck around and found ways to have him pick her up anyway, things got awful, he graduated, joined the military, the relationship ended. I recently discovered that he (now 18) has been in contact with my daughter (now 15) again. (He will turn 19 in less than 2 months,and my daughter will turn 16 in 7 months- not quite 4 years apart in age) So far all they have done is talk on the phone and email each other but he will be here on leave in less than a month and I am scared to death of history repeating itself. She swears up and down they are "just friends" but I don't believe that, I know they were sexually active when they were together. My first question, is there anything I can do to stop this relationship even though he doesn't really live in our area anymore and will only be down here when he's on leave. (He's still in the same state.) Also after everything we went through last year part of me says just forget about it let her make her own mistakes and deal with the consequences. Which comes to my second question, since I know they are in contact, if I choose to ignore it am I responsible for some type of child abuse for not protecting my child from this "man"? Please help me, I'm so confused.
Last year my 14 year old daughter began seeing a 17 year old boy. Although I thought he was too old for her I allowed her to see him at our house only, he was not allowed to pick her up and go anywhere alone with him. (I figured it wouldn't last very long as most teenage romances don't.) To try and shorten this story she snuck around and found ways to have him pick her up anyway, things got awful, he graduated, joined the military, the relationship ended. I recently discovered that he (now 18) has been in contact with my daughter (now 15) again. (He will turn 19 in less than 2 months,and my daughter will turn 16 in 7 months- not quite 4 years apart in age) So far all they have done is talk on the phone and email each other but he will be here on leave in less than a month and I am scared to death of history repeating itself. She swears up and down they are "just friends" but I don't believe that, I know they were sexually active when they were together. My first question, is there anything I can do to stop this relationship even though he doesn't really live in our area anymore and will only be down here when he's on leave. (He's still in the same state.) Also after everything we went through last year part of me says just forget about it let her make her own mistakes and deal with the consequences. Which comes to my second question, since I know they are in contact, if I choose to ignore it am I responsible for some type of child abuse for not protecting my child from this "man"? Please help me, I'm so confused.