Mother with 50/50 Custody Trying to Force Me to Live with Dad

[Fuzzyness]

Mother with 50/50 Custody Trying to Force Me to Live with Dad
I am a 16 year old living in California's Central Coast. My parents have been legally divorced since I was 9 years old. My parents share 50/50 custody of me. On August 26th 2010 my father is moving the the very top of the California coast, just 15 miles from the Oregon border. My dad has told me that he will not force me to move with him. I have no desire to leave my current city; However my mother no longer wants to deal with a music crazed teenage daughter and wants to send me to live with my dad when he moves. My mom has been extreamly upset with me since i returned from a large music festival after being gone for 3 1/2 days without her permission. Can my mom legally force me to move with my dad, even if he doesn't advocate for me to come along? He doesn't mind but wants what I want. Can I move in with a friend with my fathers permission but not my mothers? Let me remind you all they have equal shared custody.

 

[Antigone*]

Mother with 50/50 Custody Trying to Force Me to Live with Dad
I am a 16 year old living in California's Central Coast. My parents have been legally divorced since I was 9 years old. My parents share 50/50 custody of me. On August 26th 2010 my father is moving the the very top of the California coast, just 15 miles from the Oregon border. My dad has told me that he will not force me to move with him. I have no desire to leave my current city; However my mother no longer wants to deal with a music crazed teenage daughter and wants to send me to live with my dad when he moves. My mom has been extreamly upset with me since i returned from a large music festival after being gone for 3 1/2 days without her permission. Can my mom legally force me to move with my dad, even if he doesn't advocate for me to come along? He doesn't mind but wants what I want. Can I move in with a friend with my fathers permission but not my mothers? Let me remind you all they have equal shared custody.

Legally you must abide by Mom's decision. Where you live is not up to you ~ this is between your mother and father.

 

[Proserpina]

Mother with 50/50 Custody Trying to Force Me to Live with Dad
I am a 16 year old living in California's Central Coast. My parents have been legally divorced since I was 9 years old. My parents share 50/50 custody of me. On August 26th 2010 my father is moving the the very top of the California coast, just 15 miles from the Oregon border. My dad has told me that he will not force me to move with him. I have no desire to leave my current city; However my mother no longer wants to deal with a music crazed teenage daughter and wants to send me to live with my dad when he moves. My mom has been extreamly upset with me since i returned from a large music festival after being gone for 3 1/2 days without her permission. Can my mom legally force me to move with my dad, even if he doesn't advocate for me to come along? He doesn't mind but wants what I want. Can I move in with a friend with my fathers permission but not my mothers? Let me remind you all they have equal shared custody.

I take it you didn't like the answer on the other board?

You cannot move without permission from BOTH parents. One isn't enough.

Your Mom can indeed sign over custody to Dad, and you'll be living with him.

There also isn't a chance in Hades that you can be emancipated.

Your actions alone suggest that you need more, not less, adult supervision.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Mother with 50/50 Custody Trying to Force Me to Live with Dad
I am a 16 year old living in California's Central Coast. My parents have been legally divorced since I was 9 years old. My parents share 50/50 custody of me. On August 26th 2010 my father is moving the the very top of the California coast, just 15 miles from the Oregon border. My dad has told me that he will not force me to move with him. I have no desire to leave my current city; However my mother no longer wants to deal with a music crazed teenage daughter and wants to send me to live with my dad when he moves. My mom has been extreamly upset with me since i returned from a large music festival after being gone for 3 1/2 days without her permission. Can my mom legally force me to move with my dad, even if he doesn't advocate for me to come along? He doesn't mind but wants what I want. Can I move in with a friend with my fathers permission but not my mothers? Let me remind you all they have equal shared custody.

She can force you to live with your dad.

You need 2 parents permission to move elsewhere

no you will not be emancipated.

got over yourself, your mom can bring legal action against YOU and any and all your friends.

 

[Fuzzyness]

i thought that when you are 16 if parents have split custody you can choose where you live?

 

[Antigone*]

i thought that when you are 16 if parents have split custody you can choose where you live?

You thought wrong But then again it does not surprise me that a drugged up, raving teenager doesn't quite think right.

 

[Banned_Princess]

i thought that when you are 16 if parents have split custody you can choose where you live?

Thats only if you are getting a choice, and even then you are not the final say.

Appears to me that you screwed yourself by disobeying your mom, and now the choice is no longer yours.

 

[Fuzzyness]

You don't need to be mean i'm just trying to figure out what to do.

 

[Banned_Princess]

You don't need to be mean i'm just trying to figure out what to do.

The thing about being 16 is you don't have to figure out what to do, you do as you are told.

I suggest you appreciate and take full advantage of that piece of freedom, because soon enough you will not have that luxury.

 

[Fuzzyness]

what happens if i refuse to go and disappear until i'm 18. can i get in trouble for running away as a minor when i am an adult?

 

[xylene]

You don't need to be mean i'm just trying to figure out what to do.

Obey your parents.

Stop running away for days at a time and try not being generally out of control.

 

[Proserpina]

You don't need to be mean i'm just trying to figure out what to do.

Here's the thing.

If you had been responsible, your preference in a custody dispute may carry quite a bit of weight given your age.

But since you did a Really Stupid Thing, I cannot see a judge deeming you mature and responsible enough to make such a decision.

You're proving your immaturity here over and over - running away?

Really?

 

[Proserpina]

what happens if i refuse to go and disappear until i'm 18. can i get in trouble for running away as a minor when i am an adult?

(What exactly are you going to live on? Are you prepared for whomever harbors you to be charged with a crime, perhaps a felony?)

 

[CdwJava]

You don't need to be mean i'm just trying to figure out what to do.

If you knew just how many teenagers come on to these boards thinking they have the answers and no what is best for them, maybe you would understand the sometimes snippy responses.

In CA, until you are 18, you are subject to the wishes of your parents. If mom says dad can take care of you and she has no objection to him allowing you to stay with someone else, well ... so long as you are not shacking up with some adult boyfriend or involved in illicit or illegal activity, then it would be legal. Though mom and dad would still be legally responsible for you and they may not appreciate having that responsibility but not having any real control over you.

 

[Fuzzyness]

i'm not interested in anyones thoughts on my maturity or my decisions, i'm curious about the consequences of things before I do them. its a LEGAL FORUM.