if it helps any i am currently with the father, i am not the mother, but do know her. he wants to get custody of the child and preferably nothing to do with her. we both know that she isn't a good mother. she has smoked pot through out the duration of her pregnancy, and not just enought to "feel good" but enough to get a group of people wasted. she lives with at home with her mother, has no futher education other than high school and is now on welfare, not that matters, and trying to get any money she can from him when she has no claim to any of the money she is trying for. in all reality she owes him well over $12,000, in his checks cashed only by her not to mention that she never paid for anything, bill wise, while she was with him. she has a restraining order placed on him when he asked her to leave the house for being violent towards him, hitting, kicking you name it. he never laid a hand on her. consequently he hasn't been able to see the child, and she has been calling his house and sat at the end of his road in her explorer, which he bought for her, and has written him a few "nasty grams". in the letters she has told him how useless he is and shot him down for everything and for not even looking at the child when they bumped into each other at the bank one day and how he's a bad father wanting nothing to do with his son, she's the one that made it so he couldn't see the boy or be the father to him that he would like to be. i guess i would like to know what to expect out of this if we do go to court if i am going to be a part of this and go through it with him. the most advice i've gotten is to get a good lawyer.
