GermaineNicole
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What is the name of your state? Washington
I filed for divorce February 2017 and our divorce and custody order were signed on 31 July 2017. I had an attorney at the time. I only paid her $1000 from beginning to end. She recommended that due to my financial situation and the father's income, no assets, that we settle amicably. I told her from the day I hired her that I would need to move out of state with the children and she recommended keeping the divorce and relocation matters separate. I later found out that this was absolutely horrible advice and that she had been practicing law for less than a year at the time I hired her.
My ex-husband has known that I wanted to leave Washington State for nearly 3 years, since I became pregnant with our youngest. This held no weight during trial.
I have the children 5 nights out of 7, Monday from 5pm to Saturday at 8am, every other Sunday from 8am to 1230pm when the children attend church with me and one unspecified weekend a month upon a 7 day notice to take the kids to pow wows. The father has the children from 8am Saturday morning to Monday evening at 5pm with the exceptions above.
I have been Pro Se in an out of state Child Relocation motion. I am the mother and there are 2 minor children involved, ages 1 and 3. Trial was 2 days and the judge gave her ruling yesterday, May 16, 2018. The court's ruling has not yet been delivered in writing. My motion to relocate was denied.
She touched on all the relocation factors. Some were ruled in my favor some in the father's favor, some were a wash. My good faith is in question because I followed the advice of my divorce attorney and no conversation of relocation took place between our lawyers.
The father's lawyer wants the judge to make a ruling that I cannot leave the school district and if I do then the father will get full custody. The judge responded by stating that there is issue with the fact that I cannot afford where I live.
The opposing attorney and I have to send each other proposed orders and send them to the court. There has been plenty of evidence and testimony to show that I can't afford this area.
I am a disabled Veteran (80% service connected disability) andI receive $1740 a month in VA Compensation and $600 total child support for both children. My current rent is $1500 and due to increase to $1600 this coming August. My ex-husband is currently ordered to pay my vehicle note and that will end August of this year, too.
When the judge asked what I am going to do I stayed that my children are and always will be my main priority. The conundrum at this moment is the fact that I can't financially sustain here and this means that we will still need to relocate once I find a place I can afford on this state.
The father's lawyer jumped and tried to say that I am making threats and that the judge needs to stipulate in writing that I cannot leave the school district. Then the father's lawyer started talking about offers that he proposed during a mediation.
The judge interrupted him staying that she cannot be part of our discussions and we needed to get our proposed orders to each other and to the court.
She told me that I seem highly intelligent and capable of anything I put my mind to and that I did an amazing job representing myself.
My Questions are,
1) What, in general, are the proposed orders that I will need to create?
2) What is the legal form called so I can download it?
3) The court has acknowledged that there is an understanding that I will have to move soon to a place that I can afford and that the school district boundaries will not offer financial relief, would it be legal for me to add to my proposed orders that I will relocate within the state to an area of lower cost of living upon finding a place I can afford? I understand that it would have to be agreed upon but I am not sure if that would be legal given the judges ruling.
I filed for divorce February 2017 and our divorce and custody order were signed on 31 July 2017. I had an attorney at the time. I only paid her $1000 from beginning to end. She recommended that due to my financial situation and the father's income, no assets, that we settle amicably. I told her from the day I hired her that I would need to move out of state with the children and she recommended keeping the divorce and relocation matters separate. I later found out that this was absolutely horrible advice and that she had been practicing law for less than a year at the time I hired her.
My ex-husband has known that I wanted to leave Washington State for nearly 3 years, since I became pregnant with our youngest. This held no weight during trial.
I have the children 5 nights out of 7, Monday from 5pm to Saturday at 8am, every other Sunday from 8am to 1230pm when the children attend church with me and one unspecified weekend a month upon a 7 day notice to take the kids to pow wows. The father has the children from 8am Saturday morning to Monday evening at 5pm with the exceptions above.
I have been Pro Se in an out of state Child Relocation motion. I am the mother and there are 2 minor children involved, ages 1 and 3. Trial was 2 days and the judge gave her ruling yesterday, May 16, 2018. The court's ruling has not yet been delivered in writing. My motion to relocate was denied.
She touched on all the relocation factors. Some were ruled in my favor some in the father's favor, some were a wash. My good faith is in question because I followed the advice of my divorce attorney and no conversation of relocation took place between our lawyers.
The father's lawyer wants the judge to make a ruling that I cannot leave the school district and if I do then the father will get full custody. The judge responded by stating that there is issue with the fact that I cannot afford where I live.
The opposing attorney and I have to send each other proposed orders and send them to the court. There has been plenty of evidence and testimony to show that I can't afford this area.
I am a disabled Veteran (80% service connected disability) andI receive $1740 a month in VA Compensation and $600 total child support for both children. My current rent is $1500 and due to increase to $1600 this coming August. My ex-husband is currently ordered to pay my vehicle note and that will end August of this year, too.
When the judge asked what I am going to do I stayed that my children are and always will be my main priority. The conundrum at this moment is the fact that I can't financially sustain here and this means that we will still need to relocate once I find a place I can afford on this state.
The father's lawyer jumped and tried to say that I am making threats and that the judge needs to stipulate in writing that I cannot leave the school district. Then the father's lawyer started talking about offers that he proposed during a mediation.
The judge interrupted him staying that she cannot be part of our discussions and we needed to get our proposed orders to each other and to the court.
She told me that I seem highly intelligent and capable of anything I put my mind to and that I did an amazing job representing myself.
My Questions are,
1) What, in general, are the proposed orders that I will need to create?
2) What is the legal form called so I can download it?
3) The court has acknowledged that there is an understanding that I will have to move soon to a place that I can afford and that the school district boundaries will not offer financial relief, would it be legal for me to add to my proposed orders that I will relocate within the state to an area of lower cost of living upon finding a place I can afford? I understand that it would have to be agreed upon but I am not sure if that would be legal given the judges ruling.