Moving again!

[yessy]

What is the name of your state? CA.
My ex has moved 2 times already. One of the moves was 9 months ago in which we went to court to modify exchange times and exchange locations in which she was asking me to drive further but I only agreed to do 50/50. She is planning on moving further (again) and I don't want to drive any further than I am now. Can I not agree to drive 50/50 but keep it the way it is since she is the one moving?
Thanks!

 

[Humusluvr]

What is the name of your state? CA.
My ex has moved 2 times already. One of the moves was 9 months ago in which we went to court to modify exchange times and exchange locations in which she was asking me to drive further but I only agreed to do 50/50. She is planning on moving further (again) and I don't want to drive any further than I am now. Can I not agree to drive 50/50 but keep it the way it is since she is the one moving?
Thanks!

Absolutely. She's the one moving.

 

[StampGirl]

What is the name of your state? CA.
My ex has moved 2 times already. One of the moves was 9 months ago in which we went to court to modify exchange times and exchange locations in which she was asking me to drive further but I only agreed to do 50/50. She is planning on moving further (again) and I don't want to drive any further than I am now. Can I not agree to drive 50/50 but keep it the way it is since she is the one moving?
Thanks!

That depends. Does your court order reference move-aways? For example: I live in CA. Our CO states the custodial parent is allowed to move anywhere in the 5 counties (Riverside, San Bernadino, Orange, San Diego and Los Angeles) and the parents are to split drive 50/50.

From what I have been told this is very unusual for CA but like I said, its in there.

 

[yolandanewell]

According to our mediator

I'm in California - In spite of the fact that my ex-husband is the one that continues to place further distance between himself and our daughter, I am still mandated to drive half way to allow for fair visitation time (but we're only dealing with a 1 hour distance, not different states) - he keeps getting denied these requests on technicalities that he still conducts business in the town that we are in - however, according to the mediator, if he should cease all business here in our town - then I would be mandated to travel 50% of the way for custody exchanges.

I believe that is the universal rule of thumb in our state - there is the matter of (if you want to push it) having a "relief" for travel expenses which may effect the amount of child support paid or received (trust me it's not worth the hearing because unless it's a HUGE amount of travel the adjustment is a matter of a few bucks.).

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? CA.
My ex has moved 2 times already. One of the moves was 9 months ago in which we went to court to modify exchange times and exchange locations in which she was asking me to drive further but I only agreed to do 50/50. She is planning on moving further (again) and I don't want to drive any further than I am now. Can I not agree to drive 50/50 but keep it the way it is since she is the one moving?
Thanks!

The only 'rule of thumb' in CA is whether the distance creates a 'substantial additional burden'. Typically this means outside of the surrounding counties &/or a distance greater than 50 miles &/or a full hour additional drive time.

How many MILES further away is she moving?

If it's not substantial, it will remain 50/50. Just like it would be if YOU had to move for some reason.

 

[yessy]

well the first time she moved 90 miles away and court ordered i drive 30mi. in which I agreed to do 45mi. I moved after that. There was a difference of 80mi. which we split 50/50 which i thought fair since I moved.She was about to move 100mi. away but broke up with that boyfriend 2 weeks before. Then she moved closer with a different guy and now I drive 25mi. and she 23mi. but I left it at that since she would not agree on 50/50(figures). 9 months later she plans to move 95mi.away about 1hr 45min. away! It is not my fault she keeps movin in with different people to save rent money and I have to spend more time and money! If I dont agree on 50/50 she will take me to court. Do I have a chance of leaving it as it is if it gets to that point? She is the custodial parent.

 

[casa]

well the first time she moved 90 miles away and court ordered i drive 30mi. in which I agreed to do 45mi. I moved after that. There was a difference of 80mi. which we split 50/50 which i thought fair since I moved.She was about to move 100mi. away but broke up with that boyfriend 2 weeks before. Then she moved closer with a different guy and now I drive 25mi. and she 23mi. but I left it at that since she would not agree on 50/50(figures). 9 months later she plans to move 95mi.away about 1hr 45min. away! It is not my fault she keeps movin in with different people to save rent money and I have to spend more time and money! If I dont agree on 50/50 she will take me to court. Do I have a chance of leaving it as it is if it gets to that point? She is the custodial parent.

Yes, there is a good chance it will remain as is, if you are already meeting at a location (not either home).