Ms.

[dsgbbl]

What is the name of your state? Kentucky
I have been separated from my exhusband for approximately 8 years. I have recently found out he remarried and we have never be divorced. However, he lives in another state which is Indiana. I want to know what I can do about this, and who I need to go to and am I entitled to half of his property if we were to go through divorce proceedings?

And no, I am not still in love with this man. I am not scorned. I have other reasons for pursing this matter.

 

[diamortem]

Was it a legal separation filed through the court or just a "walk-out"? Not that I'd really know if there is a difference when it comes to your situation but it may help others in figuring your dillemma.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state? Kentucky
I have been separated from my exhusband for approximately 8 years. I have recently found out he remarried and we have never be divorced. However, he lives in another state which is Indiana. I want to know what I can do about this, and who I need to go to and am I entitled to half of his property if we were to go through divorce proceedings?

My response:

Oooooooh, I just love "the scorned woman" scenarios around here. Eight years, and you still care? The bigger question is, "Who gets the squirrel collection, and the single-wide trailer?"

Get a life, lady. You've obviously wasted the last eight years pining over the idiot. He's not coming back. Remember, he took the pick up truck with him.

IAAL

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Kentucky
I have been separated from my exhusband for approximately 8 years. I have recently found out he remarried and we have never be divorced. However, he lives in another state which is Indiana. I want to know what I can do about this, and who I need to go to and am I entitled to half of his property if we were to go through divorce proceedings?

Get an attorney. Unless he somehow managed to divorce you without you knowing about it he is a bigamist...and you really need an attorney to properly handle a divorce.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You better check to see if he has already divorced you and due to non response you defaulted. If you or he started no divorce proceedings in KY it is possible that he divorced you in IN. IN allows the IN resident to file for divorce after a period of time, they can serve you by certified mail, personal service and with the courts permission, publication. Have you moved? Have you at some time accepted a certified letter from him even it is didn't contain divorce papers? Have you checked the counties where he has lived in IN to se if there is a divorce case against you? Have you been communication? Does his current wife know it is you impression that you are still married and he is a bigamist? Both KY and IN are equatible distribution states which may protect your property claims in KY however your claims as to property in IN will depend on whether or not he is actually a bigamist and what a judge decides.

 

[dsgbbl]

ms.

My response:

Oooooooh, I just love "the scorned woman" scenarios around here. Eight years, and you still care? The bigger question is, "Who gets the squirrel collection, and the single-wide trailer?"

Get a life, lady. You've obviously wasted the last eight years pining over the idiot. He's not coming back. Remember, he took the pick up truck with him.

IAAL

I'm sorry, no actually you should be. You missed this one by a long shot. I don't have the first ounce of love or do I miss this no good alcoholic *******, however, we have two sons together ages 13 and 16 that he has not seen (by his choice) for the last 6 years. Therefore, if they can't have his love and attention they will damn sure have his money.

 

[dsgbbl]

Was it a legal separation filed through the court or just a "walk-out"? Not that I'd really know if there is a difference when it comes to your situation but it may help others in figuring your dillemma.

It was not through the courts.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Have you ever thought to file for child support?

 

[dsgbbl]

For the fact that our eldest son has been in alot of trouble in school and wound up having to go in front of a judge (has been diagnosed EBD) the state took temporary custody of him so that he could be sent to a boys camp. So because of this he pays child support through our local county attorneys office and I did not have to pursue because they did. Ultimately I blame this on his father for the mere fact if he could of just found a couple days a month to take his sons fishing or camping or anything I feel like it would have made a big difference in their abilities to become fine young men.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

For the fact that our eldest son has been in alot of trouble in school and wound up having to go in front of a judge (has been diagnosed EBD) the state took temporary custody of him so that he could be sent to a boys camp. So because of this he pays child support through our local county attorneys office and I did not have to pursue because they did. Ultimately I blame this on his father for the mere fact if he could of just found a couple days a month to take his sons fishing or camping or anything I feel like it would have made a big difference in their abilities to become fine young men.

My response:

Oh, look! More new facts! More reasons! More excuses! I guess it was the re-marriage that triggered you into action!

As for the boys, of course it has nothing to do with genetics or environment. Lady, you and the boys live in a "Dufus State" - - where education is meaningless and dropping out of school and using drugs is considered a "badge of courage". Your boys were destined for permanent stupidity - - from the "Duh Yup Zone."

Who the hell do you think you're kidding after so many years? Us? No. It's yourself.

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You didn't answer my other questions.
What about child support for your other child?

 

[dsgbbl]

My response:

Oh, look! More new facts! More reasons! More excuses! I guess it was the re-marriage that triggered you into action!

As for the boys, of course it has nothing to do with genetics or environment. Lady, you and the boys live in a "Dufus State" - - where education is meaningless and dropping out of school and using drugs is considered a "badge of courage". Your boys were destined for permanent stupidity - - from the "Duh Yup Zone."

Who the hell do you think you're kidding after so many years? Us? No. It's yourself.

IAAL

You think what you want and say what you want. It sounds like to me that maybe you are a scorned man, how shallow. I didn't post the question to be belittled by someone who knows nothing at all about my situation. If you aren't replying to help somebody then why don't you just do us all a favor andkeep your thoughts to yourself and mind your own business.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

You think what you want and say what you want. It sounds like to me that maybe you are a scorned man, how shallow. I didn't post the question to be belittled by someone who knows nothing at all about my situation. If you aren't replying to help somebody then why don't you just do us all a favor andkeep your thoughts to yourself and mind your own business.

My response:

Keep my thoughts to myself? Never. Won't happen. Never have, and never will. But, don't you just hate it when someone has you and your "little Angels" pegged? You see, there's usually an ulterior motive for someone to do something like you're doing after so many years.

IAAL

 

[nextwife]

Ultimately I blame this on his father for the mere fact if he could of just found a couple days a month to take his sons fishing or camping or anything I feel like it would have made a big difference in their abilities to become fine young men.

Bullcrap! My husband's dad died three months BEFORE he was born, so his daddy NEVER once took him fishing or camping, nor did mom remarry until hubby was 16, so there was no alternate "daddy figure". And he is a gentle and responsible adult. You are using not having dad around as an excuse. Men can and do grow up just fine even with no dad, and nobody taking them camping or fishing.

 

[TNBSMommy]

Bullcrap! My husband's dad died three months BEFORE he was born, so his daddy NEVER once took him fishing or camping, nor did mom remarry until hubby was 16, so there was no alternate "daddy figure". And he is a gentle and responsible adult. You are using not having dad around as an excuse. Men can and do grow up just fine even with no dad, and nobody taking them camping or fishing.

I'd like to add to that, my children, husband and I just spent a week camping and fishing... I started the campfire, and by the end of the week, had taught my daughter to do it(under supervision, of course!) I also helped teach the kids to bait their own hook... of course they only caught the lake, themselves, the boat rope, and according to them, their nightcrawlers! the point is, although there was a man there, I did most of the camping/fishing stuff with them, my daughter also helped me pitch the tent, while my husband was unpacking other stuff... the point of ALL that is it isn't just men and "father figures" capable of doing this sort of stuff with their children... heck, my daughter won't even need a man with her to go camping when she is grown!!