areynolds00
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? North Carolina
My ex and I decided back in Sept. 2007 it was time to end out rocky relationship, and it ended on a bad note. I was the one who left, but not having anywhere to go at the time, my 4 year old son was safer with his father. For about 2 months we were civil to each other, then as I started saying I was going to take our son for weekends to my place, his father started threatening me with a previous custody order we had when our son was 2. Which stated I had visitation every other weekend since I lived out of town for business. When I said that this was OK for now, but it will change later once I had my own place without a roommate, he felt threatened, in early November I was handed a no contact protective order for my ex and my son. This means that I cannot contact either one in any way. On the grounds that I have been threatening him. ( I have not) The judge sided with him because his attorney put together a nice speech and I couldn't do anything about it. For 1 year, I cannot contact my son. I then get letters stating we now have to go to child custody mediation. I go through the orientation, then to the 1st visit with the mediator, she then proceeds to tell my ex and I separately that they were not told about the "Protective order" by his lawyer and they cannot proceed with mediation until the judge reviews the information and makes a ruling about mediation for us. They have to follow the rules. March 24th I receive a call stating we cannot go through mediation since there is a no contact protective order against me. I either have to wait and see if my ex will drop the protective order or get a lawyer and fight this. I don't know where to turn.
My questions are as follows.
1. This all started November 2, 2007 and during this time, my ex's lawyer has sent wrong information, documentation, etc. to me and to the court. Is there something I can do about this?
2. What my rights are in this situation?
3. If there are no substantial evidence for a protective order, how can he do this, and involve my son?
4. I am already required to pay child support, I think its very high and would like some assistance with this as well.
Thanks for reading,
Amanda
My ex and I decided back in Sept. 2007 it was time to end out rocky relationship, and it ended on a bad note. I was the one who left, but not having anywhere to go at the time, my 4 year old son was safer with his father. For about 2 months we were civil to each other, then as I started saying I was going to take our son for weekends to my place, his father started threatening me with a previous custody order we had when our son was 2. Which stated I had visitation every other weekend since I lived out of town for business. When I said that this was OK for now, but it will change later once I had my own place without a roommate, he felt threatened, in early November I was handed a no contact protective order for my ex and my son. This means that I cannot contact either one in any way. On the grounds that I have been threatening him. ( I have not) The judge sided with him because his attorney put together a nice speech and I couldn't do anything about it. For 1 year, I cannot contact my son. I then get letters stating we now have to go to child custody mediation. I go through the orientation, then to the 1st visit with the mediator, she then proceeds to tell my ex and I separately that they were not told about the "Protective order" by his lawyer and they cannot proceed with mediation until the judge reviews the information and makes a ruling about mediation for us. They have to follow the rules. March 24th I receive a call stating we cannot go through mediation since there is a no contact protective order against me. I either have to wait and see if my ex will drop the protective order or get a lawyer and fight this. I don't know where to turn.
My questions are as follows.
1. This all started November 2, 2007 and during this time, my ex's lawyer has sent wrong information, documentation, etc. to me and to the court. Is there something I can do about this?
2. What my rights are in this situation?
3. If there are no substantial evidence for a protective order, how can he do this, and involve my son?
4. I am already required to pay child support, I think its very high and would like some assistance with this as well.
Thanks for reading,
Amanda