thank you for your responses.
drama- u missed the point entirely. I am not concerned about the cost of the phones. at this point i am not upset about anything. just stating that access is free and uninhibited at my home.
I am concerned about a couple of things. One, if the phones have unlimited calling, I do not believe it is safe. Two, if they don't have unlimited calling, what is the point? There is already freedom of access for the NCP via phone. Finally, I don't like the idea of getting the young children accustomed to or expecting to have cell phones at the ages of 7 and 8.
Ultimately, my greatest problem is, this is not about cell phones or access for the NCP. It is about imparting control in my home. I do speak with children at NCP house, but do it rarely. Same so far with NCP at my home. I believe their time is their time and visa versa. I believe interrupting that time with too much communication or a competition of communication will ultimately harm the children.
And about saving battles for bigger issues... this is a long and all encompassing war fought on all fronts with the ultimate goal of ncp to recapture custody.
So bottom line- given the freedom of access already, Can I say no cell phones in this home???
I see your response now ld. thank you. (newbie here)