My Brother's Health

[BrokenOne]

My Brothers' Health

What is the name of your state?
Oregon

Hello, I am a fifteen year old as of now, but I wish to figure this out before my eighteenth birthday so I can go on living without worry. Thank you to whoever posts.

My mom was always into drugs, alcohal, whatever came her way. Well, my mom and dad split up before my kindergarten year and then things were fine... Until I was in third grade.
She had found a new boyfriend, Ronald. She became pregnant with her first son, Tristan. Good news, until I went to visit her. It was then that they gotten into a drunken argument and I personally witnessed him punch her in the stomach, right where Tristan was being grown!
To say the least, she was soon trying to get out of that relationship, causing drunken driving with an infant after Tristan was born. This caused her to lose liscence, go to jail, take A.A., and my half-brother into foster home. This is where some fool left a bottle in his mouth all day, causing bottle-rot in his teeth.
During her A.A., my mother decided to get back with Ron, who was also taking A.A. and was required by law not to see her again, same situation with her. She broke the law and they raised the child together within two homes.
She became pregnant again a few months after Tristan's birth, another boy, Bradly. He did not have as much problems because of the tight and fair restrictions of the law.
I came to live with my mother than, she had Tristan in costody and was pregnant with Bradly. Her and Ron hitched back up.
A year or so went by without problems, but my mom still hung around with illegal-drug users and sooner or later went back into that. I became the boys' caretaker. To say the least, I missed out on a childhood. Worth it to me.
Ron and her got back into drugs and alcohal and soon I found myself being full-time, a Mother in some senses. Ron went back to beating and the past repeated itself over and over. Physical fights happened more often.
Finally there came a time when she got her rear away and went to Rehabitation, far away from Ron. From what I see, she is doing fine, but I wouldn't expect good from her.
I have seen Tristan at the age of four being picked up by the throat approximentally six feet in the air, eye to eye with Ron. I have seen my mom have a knife to throat. I have seen Bradly thrown across the room. I have only gotten my hair pulled.

When I am eighteen, will I be able to get costody of my brothers? She is a horrible parent to them, no patience and doesn't understand them because problem and Tristan has problems with sound (he didn't talk until he was four, probably due to all the loud noises while he was small.)she didn't know them much when they were very small. Bradly has an anger
Even if she remains on her feet, is there a way to get them bringing back all this information and bringing the facts of her inability to be a good parent? If I need more information, tell me what I need.

Furthermore, I will ALWAYS try to get costody first on a very civil basis. This is a probable, but still unsure, possibility.



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I am currently living with my grandmother from my dad's side, they are living with my mother across the state from me.

 

[Whyte Noise]

Who are you and your brothers living with now, and who has custody?

 

[BrokenOne]

Sorry, forgot.

Oh, yes. I am currently living with my father's mom. THEY are living with my mom, across the state from me.

I will put that on the original, thank you.

 

[Whyte Noise]

I'm sorry BrokenOne, but your post really begs more questions than answers....

Are mom and Ron currently "together"? Even though she's 'away' from him.
Was DFS ever called about the abuse in the home?
If so, what came of those cases?
If not, (and I hate to say this) WHY?

If no reports were ever made to anyone (police, DFS, etc.) then it will be hard to prove the abuse. Courts hear abuse allegations all of the time-- it's becoming second nature (not to abuse, but to allege it).

Legally speaking, the biological parents of the children are the only ones with custody rights to them. Until a 3rd party petitions for custody and the court finds it's in the best interest of the child to NOT be with a parent and grants it to the 3rd party. Honestly, that's not an easy task. Your young age makes it even more daunting for you.

 

[BrokenOne]

Are mom and Ron currently "together"? Even though she's 'away' from him. No. She is being watched closely and is far away from him.
Was DFS ever called about the abuse in the home? Sorry,.I don't know what that is? I'm guessing Child Services? Yes, if that is the case, but sadly, not enough times. Two, I believe
If so, what came of those cases? Nothing, he always got away.
If not, (and I hate to say this) WHY? Not enough, because my mom wouldn't report and had physically forced me NOT to.

By third party, how many people do I need to talk for me? I can think of only one right now, Ron's oldest son, Ron. He was born of a woman before my mother. He is two years older than I am.

 

[Whyte Noise]

No hun... YOU would be the 3rd party petitioning for custody. Anyone other than a parent is a 3rd party, be they aunt, uncle, brother, sisiter, Grandma, next door neightbor, etc.

Yes, DFS is Children's Services (or Dept. of Family Services as I abbreviated it). How old are those reports?

Your problem is going to be proving that mom is unfit in 3 more years to have custody. Past history may come into play, yes. But the nuts and bolts of the case will be how mom is unfit to parent your brothers. You still have 3 years to go before you turn 18 and your mother "may" just get her stuff together. If, in 3 years, your mother is unfit to have custody you would have to prove that in court. Not just allegations, but cold hard PROOF. Again, that's 3 years into the future and it's not really possible to make an educated guess given that time frame.

 

[BrokenOne]

Ty!

Thank you so much for helping me. I will, of course, keep up-to-date on my mothers actions as well as possible, but I know it will probably be hard in some cases. I just hope she manages to just hand them over to me. That would be the most sense out of her so far.

I am already a fit parent, and have planned to take them for a long time. I just thought I'd look into this now to grow off of it.

Thank you, again.

 

[Whyte Noise]

You're welcome.

For right now, all you can do is sit back and watch. You're still a minor child yourself, although I know you don't feel like it. I can sympathize as my mother died when I was 13. My dad didn't take it well, and I was pretty much left to raise my 2 younger brothers while he sat in a bar trying to drink away my moms memory and his pain.

However, I will say this to err on the side of caution... if there is any further abuse of your brothers, make SURE it's reported. No child should have to endure such a thing.

I wish you all the best.