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carmonal03
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What is the name of your state? Michigan
Hello all. I am hoping i can find some type of advice here i appreciate any bit of advice or help anyone can offer me. I cant afford a private attorney and legal aid in my county told me that i make too much for their guidlines. Thank you in advance.
Hello, I am from California but i have an 11 month old daughter that lives in Michigan. I was told by her mothers family that i should come up here because the mom wasnt "doing well", meaning that she had been evicted from 2 apartments in 3 month period, she dosent work neither does her on-again off-again boyfriend that has been in jail before for fighting with knives. At that point paternity had never been established so there was no child support order in place depite my many letters and calls to the prosecutors office in their county. I packed up all my stuff quit my job and DROVE out here to michigan. When I got here i started a new job within a week. Almost immediately my X and her bf started asking me for all these favors. Favors included asking me for cash, to borrow my car and even to buy them alcohol (they're 19 and 20) When i refused on 3 occasions they got violent and threatening to me. I called the police and have documentation of it. Twice they came to my work and threatened to kill me in the prescence of my boss who called 911. The police arrive and my x is still there. She threatens to pay someone to beat my a** in front of the cop! I have all this in the report, the police let them go because there was no physical contact. This happened at 1am but my X didnt have my daughter of her other child with her, so they left the kids somewhere just to come harass me. The cop advised me to petition the court for a restraining order which i did and was granted. After that I had my work transfer me to a city an hour (61) miles away where i rented a house and am at now to get away from that chaos. A week before X-mas my X got ahold of me at 1am and told me that she was out on the street and had no money or food and was staying at different places every day and said that i needed to go pick my daughter up before CPS took her. She took her 3 year old son to his dads house because she couldnt take care of him or feed him and she needed me to go pick my daughter up for the same reason. I was a little hesitant to go seeing as I have to abide my the restraining order too but i went because id rather have my daughter with me than in that predicament. So i made the drive to go get her in the middle of the night in 12 degree wether. My X has been evicted from apartments TWICE this year and has never had a job before and she is 20. When i got the baby she had a temp of 104 and a diaper rash so bad that it bled. My X said she had no moey for diaper rash creme yet her and her bf were drinking beer so obviousely they had the money for that. She was in a run down $20 a night motel which she stated that her bf's parents gave them the money for and said she had no idea where she was going the next morning at 11 when they had to be out of the motel room. I took her (my daughter) to the ER but they wouldnt treat her because i cant prove shes mine (paternity was never established) The ER called CPS and i explained everything to them and they treated her. I was told that i need to file for guardianship or custody of her since ive had her this long and her mom has no where to go. I have my own home but only work part time so social servicis is giving me food stamps, medicaid and child care for her until they give me benefits at work wich could be until spring. I cant afford an attorney and i make "too much" ($640 a month) to qualify for the legal aid to low income residents. Everytime i go to the court to see what i need to do about guardianship or custody they tell me a lawyer has to do it for me. Iam so confused and frustrated.
The ER doctor even stated that her rash had only gotten that bad because it had been untreated for at least a week. CPS even took pictures of my daughters genitals area it was so bad. The next day my X and her bf call my cell phone (restraining order violation) just to ask how the baby was. Much to my stupidity i didnt report the phone call because despite what had happened i believe that she does have a right to know how the baby is doing medically. I told her about the ER visit and CPS and all of that and she stated she had no way to get the baby to the hospital and that they had stayed for a few days with her bf's parents but they would not take her to the ER. Also they would not "let" her use the phone to call for an ambulance...which im sorry but i find very hard to believe they wouldnt let her call 911. This girl will ALWAYS place blame on someone else and cannot and will not accept responisibility for anything. She says she needs a month or two to start working and "get back on her feet" at which time she expects for me to just hand this baby right over her. Three days ago she called me again AGAIN I didnt report the violation because she told me that if i took the baby down to see her for a few hours that she would go to the courthouse with me and we would sign the affidavit of parantage thus establishing paternity. I agreed and she DID follow through with her end. So now paternity is established but still, eventhough breana id living with me now this is not a legal arrangement and im scared to death that my X will just pop up one of these days and want the baby back. I have maintained constant contact with the father of my X's other child so that my daughter can see her brother everynow and then and we have became good friends. We both agree that we dont want to give our children back to thias girl. And to make things worse for him they are still deducting child support from him to give to her even though he's had his son a week longer than ive had my daughter. Im really sorry that this post was so long but can someone PLEASE offer some hope. Thank you very much
Hello all. I am hoping i can find some type of advice here i appreciate any bit of advice or help anyone can offer me. I cant afford a private attorney and legal aid in my county told me that i make too much for their guidlines. Thank you in advance.
Hello, I am from California but i have an 11 month old daughter that lives in Michigan. I was told by her mothers family that i should come up here because the mom wasnt "doing well", meaning that she had been evicted from 2 apartments in 3 month period, she dosent work neither does her on-again off-again boyfriend that has been in jail before for fighting with knives. At that point paternity had never been established so there was no child support order in place depite my many letters and calls to the prosecutors office in their county. I packed up all my stuff quit my job and DROVE out here to michigan. When I got here i started a new job within a week. Almost immediately my X and her bf started asking me for all these favors. Favors included asking me for cash, to borrow my car and even to buy them alcohol (they're 19 and 20) When i refused on 3 occasions they got violent and threatening to me. I called the police and have documentation of it. Twice they came to my work and threatened to kill me in the prescence of my boss who called 911. The police arrive and my x is still there. She threatens to pay someone to beat my a** in front of the cop! I have all this in the report, the police let them go because there was no physical contact. This happened at 1am but my X didnt have my daughter of her other child with her, so they left the kids somewhere just to come harass me. The cop advised me to petition the court for a restraining order which i did and was granted. After that I had my work transfer me to a city an hour (61) miles away where i rented a house and am at now to get away from that chaos. A week before X-mas my X got ahold of me at 1am and told me that she was out on the street and had no money or food and was staying at different places every day and said that i needed to go pick my daughter up before CPS took her. She took her 3 year old son to his dads house because she couldnt take care of him or feed him and she needed me to go pick my daughter up for the same reason. I was a little hesitant to go seeing as I have to abide my the restraining order too but i went because id rather have my daughter with me than in that predicament. So i made the drive to go get her in the middle of the night in 12 degree wether. My X has been evicted from apartments TWICE this year and has never had a job before and she is 20. When i got the baby she had a temp of 104 and a diaper rash so bad that it bled. My X said she had no moey for diaper rash creme yet her and her bf were drinking beer so obviousely they had the money for that. She was in a run down $20 a night motel which she stated that her bf's parents gave them the money for and said she had no idea where she was going the next morning at 11 when they had to be out of the motel room. I took her (my daughter) to the ER but they wouldnt treat her because i cant prove shes mine (paternity was never established) The ER called CPS and i explained everything to them and they treated her. I was told that i need to file for guardianship or custody of her since ive had her this long and her mom has no where to go. I have my own home but only work part time so social servicis is giving me food stamps, medicaid and child care for her until they give me benefits at work wich could be until spring. I cant afford an attorney and i make "too much" ($640 a month) to qualify for the legal aid to low income residents. Everytime i go to the court to see what i need to do about guardianship or custody they tell me a lawyer has to do it for me. Iam so confused and frustrated.
The ER doctor even stated that her rash had only gotten that bad because it had been untreated for at least a week. CPS even took pictures of my daughters genitals area it was so bad. The next day my X and her bf call my cell phone (restraining order violation) just to ask how the baby was. Much to my stupidity i didnt report the phone call because despite what had happened i believe that she does have a right to know how the baby is doing medically. I told her about the ER visit and CPS and all of that and she stated she had no way to get the baby to the hospital and that they had stayed for a few days with her bf's parents but they would not take her to the ER. Also they would not "let" her use the phone to call for an ambulance...which im sorry but i find very hard to believe they wouldnt let her call 911. This girl will ALWAYS place blame on someone else and cannot and will not accept responisibility for anything. She says she needs a month or two to start working and "get back on her feet" at which time she expects for me to just hand this baby right over her. Three days ago she called me again AGAIN I didnt report the violation because she told me that if i took the baby down to see her for a few hours that she would go to the courthouse with me and we would sign the affidavit of parantage thus establishing paternity. I agreed and she DID follow through with her end. So now paternity is established but still, eventhough breana id living with me now this is not a legal arrangement and im scared to death that my X will just pop up one of these days and want the baby back. I have maintained constant contact with the father of my X's other child so that my daughter can see her brother everynow and then and we have became good friends. We both agree that we dont want to give our children back to thias girl. And to make things worse for him they are still deducting child support from him to give to her even though he's had his son a week longer than ive had my daughter. Im really sorry that this post was so long but can someone PLEASE offer some hope. Thank you very much