My daughters best interest

[Kcaswell]

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See I never said about getting paid per child or anything in that manner. No between 3 people in this CSB they make over $300,000 a year salary. And then want to remove all kids from residential due to lack of money well I see something wrong with that. And I am not saying all CSB just this particular one. So if it is not true then why get so upset. And when she was in a good home and they did not put her back in with that foster parent who is a caseworker because she ran way. Well what do they think she is going to do in this home. See they have let her run them and tell them what to do instead of them putting their foot down and letting her know she is not in control. If I had the money for an attorney I would fight my case be I know it was not delt with correctly and their are a lot of gaps. See the adoptive mom has the file and she even knows something is not right I will always be their mom no matter what paper work says and I have professionals that agree. It may be to late to ever get my kids but if I can prevent this corruption happening to another family I will. See I was not some junkie not taking care of my kids I was working supporting my family in our own place with my kids in school everyday and food in my house exactly why I was not accused of neglect I had a drug problem and instead of helping me they kicked me and that’s fine because it made me who I am it just sucks my kids had to suffer in the process.

 

[Ohiogal]

Summit county did not screw you over. And in Ohio you are guaranteed counsel through every bit of the case if you apply. So you could have had an attorney if you cared.

 

[Ohiogal]

See you all are getting pretty mad. No I did not choose drugs over my daughter if y’all are in The legal fields you all should have more compassion for addicts and understand it more. And I did not give my child up because I wanted to get high I signed the papers because there are people working in the system and not investing things properly and I know more then you think.I have a really close friend a matter of fact she retired from the CSB and was the intake worker who came to my home when this all started. And my son and daughter were both adopted by the same woman at the same time and not a couple she is a single mom I did not sign papers to get i high signed them because accusations were made and investigated and proven to be false but yet nothing was being done to place my kids back in my home. I could not pay for an attorney so this is the outcome. My son is not screwed up and we have a relationship my daughter was not screwed up until she knew she could get away with anything and not face consequences. It is funny how I screwed her up but she was with me and this was just a year ago she was with me for the summer she did not act this way because she knew it would not fly. See before you all go bad mouthing someone you should really know the facts. I have a relationship with my son his other mother and the past intake worker. And we are all working together to shine light on this problem so another child does not have to go through this. See people think they are so much better then an addict and like we have a choice. Maybe you all should invest some of the money you make into a drug and alcohol dependencei class and getting a better understanding before you go casting stones. See everyone in this world is addicted to something and I am not ashamed to say I am in addict in recovery or asshamed of my past. God has blessed me and humbled me with the storms I have been through in my life. Maybe that is what you all need. I did not wake up one day and say I want to be a junkie no it all started with pain pills after I had my daughter. Addiction is hereditary it is strong on both sides of my family. That is something I never knew until It was to late because I did not grow up in an addictive household. Addicts are the most kind loving humble people anyone can meet and the strongest because we know how it is to fall all the all the way down and build ourselves up with no help from anyone. And always remember judge and you too shall be judged. Thank you all for your loving and kind words you are all in my prayers lord knows y’all need them.

Addicts are not the most kind loving humble people. They are selfish and tend to commit crimes to support their habits. Your son only has ONE mother. And that is the woman who adopted him. And I have a lot of experience dealing with addicts. In fact, I have represented many who have had their children returned and who didn't walk away from them. I have won many appeals for addicts in recovery.
You have contradicted yourself with what you think you know about addicts.

 

[Ohiogal]

See I never said about getting paid per child or anything in that manner. No between 3 people in this CSB they make over $300,000 a year salary. And then want to remove all kids from residential due to lack of money well I see something wrong with that. And I am not saying all CSB just this particular one. So if it is not true then why get so upset. And when she was in a good home and they did not put her back in with that foster parent who is a caseworker because she ran way. Well what do they think she is going to do in this home. See they have let her run them and tell them what to do instead of them putting their foot down and letting her know she is not in control. If I had the money for an attorney I would fight my case be I know it was not delt with correctly and their are a lot of gaps. See the adoptive mom has the file and she even knows something is not right I will always be their mom no matter what paper work says and I have professionals that agree. It may be to late to ever get my kids but if I can prevent this corruption happening to another family I will. See I was not some junkie not taking care of my kids I was working supporting my family in our own place with my kids in school everyday and food in my house exactly why I was not accused of neglect I had a drug problem and instead of helping me they kicked me and that’s fine because it made me who I am it just sucks my kids had to suffer in the process.

Corruption? Not a dang thing you can do. You also are not educated about the law or even proper English.

 

[commentator]

Quote: "Addicts are the most kind loving humble people anyone can meat.....

and the strongest because we know how it is to fall all the all the way down and build ourselves up with no help from anyone."

I agree with the first part of your statement. Some of the naturally kindest gentlest most conflict-avoidant people I have met have been addicts. I strongly disagree with the last part of it. They're certainly not the strongest, and all the addiction treatment in the world is about admitting we need help and accepting that help and accepting our own weaknesses. And of course it's also about not judging others and about lashing out with blame and condemnation.

Quote: "See people think they are so much better then an addict and like we have a choice. Maybe you all should invest some of the money you make into a drug and alcohol dependencei class and getting a better understanding before you go casting stones"

You absolutely did not hear this in any drug and alcohol dependence class and you know it.

Yes, you may not like to hear it or think about it, but you DID have choices, and you DID choose drugs over your children. You should be thankful you didn't do something like leave them in a hot car that would've really ended their lives. You could have, you know. It has certainly happened. Drug addicts just always choose the drugs first, it's inherent to the condition. Your recovery must be bedrock based on accepting the things you did while in the throes of your addiction insanity.

Coming here and showering us with a whole bunch of excuses and blame because we supposedly have more than you do and all your self pity is not an impressive testimony to your present sobriety and emotional security, It's not any more helpful than your wanting to be mixing up with your former daughter's current custody issues and throwing huge rocks at the people who are now caring for her. Help yourself so that you may someday make amends and actually and legitimately offer her help.

 

[Just Blue]

See I never said about getting paid per child or anything in that manner. No between 3 people in this CSB they make over $300,000 a year salary. And then want to remove all kids from residential due to lack of money well I see something wrong with that. And I am not saying all CSB just this particular one. So if it is not true then why get so upset. And when she was in a good home and they did not put her back in with that foster parent who is a caseworker because she ran way. Well what do they think she is going to do in this home. See they have let her run them and tell them what to do instead of them putting their foot down and letting her know she is not in control. If I had the money for an attorney I would fight my case be I know it was not delt with correctly and their are a lot of gaps. See the adoptive mom has the file and she even knows something is not right I will always be their mom no matter what paper work says and I have professionals that agree. It may be to late to ever get my kids but if I can prevent this corruption happening to another family I will. See I was not some junkie not taking care of my kids I was working supporting my family in our own place with my kids in school everyday and food in my house exactly why I was not accused of neglect I had a drug problem and instead of helping me they kicked me and that’s fine because it made me who I am it just sucks my kids had to suffer in the process.

No. You are not their mom. You ceased being their mother when you CHOSE to do drugs. They suffered while you were off getting high. Apparently your birth-son was young enough when the state intervened to "bounce back". Your birth-daughter wasn't so fortunate.

That you would have the audacity to criticize her care-givers is repugnant.

The very best thing that could happen for these children, is a RO keeping you away from them.

 

[stealth2]

I have a really close friend a matter of fact she retired from the CSB and was the intake worker who came to my home when this all started.

And then want to remove all kids from residential due to lack of money well I see something wrong with that. And I am not saying all CSB just this particular one.

So.... this was your good friend?

 

[Shadowbunny]

See I never said about getting paid per child or anything in that manner. No between 3 people in this CSB they make over $300,000 a year salary....

Where are you getting your information from about their salaries? Because I know many, many people in the social work field, and not a one of them makes that sort of money.

Also, you seem to be under the hugely-misguided notion that we're all attorneys. If you had read the TOS you will see that most of us are laypeople with experience in a wide range of fields. Now some who post here ARE attorneys -- they've been vetted by this site. But the majority aren't. So you may want to ratchet down the rhetoric and get off your Towering Trigger.

 

[Pinkie39]

Where are you getting your information from about their salaries? Because I know many, many people in the social work field, and not a one of them makes that sort of money.

Also, you seem to be under the hugely-misguided notion that we're all attorneys. If you had read the TOS you will see that most of us are laypeople with experience in a wide range of fields. Now some who post here ARE attorneys -- they've been vetted by this site. But the majority aren't. So you may want to ratchet down the rhetoric and get off your Towering Trigger.

This.

I'm a county Medicaid caseworker in Ohio. I see job openings all the time at work for county children and family services social workers. My sister worked as one, as did several of my coworkers. So I'm very familiar with their salaries as well.

The starting pay for a social worker in my county is just over $20 an hour. Approximately $42,000 a year. Public assistance caseworkers in my county earn more than social workers do, and have half the stress and half the responsibility.

These social workers are required to have a bachelor's degree or higher. They're on call 24/7. Have to make life and death decisions. Get bashed if they remove kids from their homes, and get bashed if they don't remove kids, and one is killed or seriously injured.

It's a thankless job with low pay. Believe me, if county social workers made six figure salaries, they wouldn't have the insane turnover that they do.

Even at my agency, there are upper level managers with doctorate or law degrees, and decades of experience, earning less than $100k a year.

 

[Ohiogal]

I don’t think op is coming back ... I think I figured out who she is

 

[Just Blue]

I don’t think op is coming back ... I think I figured out who she is

SMF time...

 

[Doc20002001]

See you all are getting pretty mad. No I did not choose drugs over my daughter if y’all are in The legal fields you all should have more compassion for addicts and understand it more. And I did not give my child up because I wanted to get high I signed the papers because there are people working in the system and not investing things properly and I know more then you think.I have a really close friend a matter of fact she retired from the CSB and was the intake worker who came to my home when this all started. And my son and daughter were both adopted by the same woman at the same time and not a couple she is a single mom I did not sign papers to get i high signed them because accusations were made and investigated and proven to be false but yet nothing was being done to place my kids back in my home. I could not pay for an attorney so this is the outcome. My son is not screwed up and we have a relationship my daughter was not screwed up until she knew she could get away with anything and not face consequences. It is funny how I screwed her up but she was with me and this was just a year ago she was with me for the summer she did not act this way because she knew it would not fly. See before you all go bad mouthing someone you should really know the facts. I have a relationship with my son his other mother and the past intake worker. And we are all working together to shine light on this problem so another child does not have to go through this. See people think they are so much better then an addict and like we have a choice. Maybe you all should invest some of the money you make into a drug and alcohol dependencei class and getting a better understanding before you go casting stones. See everyone in this world is addicted to something and I am not ashamed to say I am in addict in recovery or asshamed of my past. God has blessed me and humbled me with the storms I have been through in my life. Maybe that is what you all need. I did not wake up one day and say I want to be a junkie no it all started with pain pills after I had my daughter. Addiction is hereditary it is strong on both sides of my family. That is something I never knew until It was to late because I did not grow up in an addictive household. Addicts are the most kind loving humble people anyone can meet and the strongest because we know how it is to fall all the all the way down and build ourselves up with no help from anyone. And always remember judge and you too shall be judged. Thank you all for your loving and kind words you are all in my prayers lord knows y’all need them.

WOW, Sorry to say but i was a POS selfish Drunk addict 20+ yrs ago and way back then i knew not to have kids as i was too selfish, but from what you have posted you had kids, you were in your addiction, and you signed your kids away and now you say you didn't. You are not making sense and please dont get mad when people call you out on it and then complain they should take drug classes, its not anyone elses job to get up to speed on our disease. 20+ years ago i had a $300 a day habit and today after having 4 kids i couldn't ever imagine getting messed up and forsaking my kids no matter how screwed up i was. Im glad youre sober and hope you are going to 12 step meetings as that is the only thing that works for most of us as ive got over 20 yrs and still go min 3x per week. Good luck.