my next step?

[pharmgirl]

What is the name of your state? NJ

4 years ago my then 9 yr old daughter decided she wanted to live with her father. We drew up paperwork modifying custody, child support etc.,. My daughter has now decided that she wants to come live with us. She informed her father of her decision over Easter and he immediately stopped talking to her and his wife became verbally abusive. I was able to put a stop to that and they are treating her better now however, they are not responding to any imperative paperwork that needs to be done.

Thinking that this was going to be as easy as it was 4 years ago, I took the current court order and just reversed the visitation, child support etc., to be pertinent to our daughter living with me. Exact same thing. I mailed it certified to my ex-husband 3 weeks ago. He signed for it and received but he refuses to answer, disagree, acknowledge it. I have also sent 3 emails which have gone unanswered as well.

What is my next step? I would rather not have to hire an attorney for $5000 when the paperwork is just the reverse of what it is now. Any help would be appreciated.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? NJ

4 years ago my then 9 yr old daughter decided she wanted to live with her father. We drew up paperwork modifying custody, child support etc.,. My daughter has now decided that she wants to come live with us. She informed her father of her decision over Easter and he immediately stopped talking to her and his wife became verbally abusive. I was able to put a stop to that and they are treating her better now however, they are not responding to any imperative paperwork that needs to be done.

Thinking that this was going to be as easy as it was 4 years ago, I took the current court order and just reversed the visitation, child support etc., to be pertinent to our daughter living with me. Exact same thing. I mailed it certified to my ex-husband 3 weeks ago. He signed for it and received but he refuses to answer, disagree, acknowledge it. I have also sent 3 emails which have gone unanswered as well.

What is my next step? I would rather not have to hire an attorney for $5000 when the paperwork is just the reverse of what it is now. Any help would be appreciated.

One thing you could do is STOP letting a CHILD dictate your lives. That would help. Does she also tell you people what she plans to eat for dinner, and you cook it? Or whether or not she will attend school?

If he won't acknowledge your private communications, you're probably going to have to hire an attorney, after all. You can't force him by yourself.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? NJ

4 years ago my then 9 yr old daughter decided she wanted to live with her father. We drew up paperwork modifying custody, child support etc.,. My daughter has now decided that she wants to come live with us. She informed her father of her decision over Easter and he immediately stopped talking to her and his wife became verbally abusive. I was able to put a stop to that and they are treating her better now however, they are not responding to any imperative paperwork that needs to be done.

Thinking that this was going to be as easy as it was 4 years ago, I took the current court order and just reversed the visitation, child support etc., to be pertinent to our daughter living with me. Exact same thing. I mailed it certified to my ex-husband 3 weeks ago. He signed for it and received but he refuses to answer, disagree, acknowledge it. I have also sent 3 emails which have gone unanswered as well.

What is my next step? I would rather not have to hire an attorney for $5000 when the paperwork is just the reverse of what it is now. Any help would be appreciated.

He is not legally obligated to agree to, or sign, the paperwork you sent. The receipt only proves you mailed him this 'proposed' agreement.

Is the child with you now? Did she actually move home on Easter? If she is still living with Dad~ You are going to have to go to court. And unless you can prove a "Significant Change of Circumstance" per NJ Law...then you won't win. Even with an attorney. You mentioned nothing in your post that would meet that criteria.

 

[casa]

...and Ditto what Silverplum wrote~ This is why you don't let your children yo-yo around every time they think the 'Grass is Greener'.