My Soon To Be Ex Is Wacko

[21kimi]

I live in Oregon and my husband and I separated about 2 months ago (he moved out). We have two small children ages 3 and 1. He has been abusive and was drunk 75% of the time we were together. I don't believe that he's drinking that heavily now. When he bring's our sons back to me he tells our oldest son "it's ok I know that you don't want to go with mommy, I know you want your daddy instead". I have asked him to not say that because of obvious reasons but he won't listen. I signed my divorce papers last week and haven't heard anything from my lawyer yet. I guess I am asking if there is anything that I can do about his behavior towards me and my children. I have recently met a guy that is wonderfull with my kids and treats me well, I'm not sure if my ex can use that against me in our divorce. Can you please help me?

 

[Ralphw]

Hello,
I can relate to that situation. I firmly believe he can't use that as long as the kids aren't put in any danger because of the new boyfriend.
you should hear our story...man its nuts.

 

[Grandma B]

Don't you have a parenting plan as a part of your dissolution papers? I realize you don't have final papers yet, but most states require some type of parental classes/counseling prior to granting dissolution when there are children involved. The parenting plan should state that parties are not to discuss anything detrimental to the other parent in front of the children.

If your papers warrant it, take him to court for contempt. If they don't, you can petition the court asking for him to attend some sort of counseling or parenting classes.

If something isn't done, he's going to cause your son a lot of trauma. He needs to learn that quickly. Good luck to you and your children.