Need a quick answer plz

[summerdawn]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

My girls were just dropped off early from their father's house. My 9 year old came daughter in and told me that when they were visiting this weekend, stepmom became angry and grabbed 9 by the arm and literally picked her up by one arm while she was yelling and screaming at her. (9 was on the floor sitting down and sm grabbed her arm angrily and picked her up to a standing position.) The girls both stated that they were very frightened and that they told their daddy and he said he "thinks it's because of the drugs she's on, that's why she is acting this way lately".

Stepmom has a back injury and is apparently on painkillers or something. Her behavior has gotten pretty aggressive lately, including posting some pictures of me and my husband on a public website along with a bunch of pretty horrible things about us. I was hoping that she might be able to separate her anger towards me from the children this visit, but they said she was angry all weekend and yelling a lot.

I'd really like to know what my options are in this matter-I want to state that 9 does NOT have any bruising or continued pain, but she and her sisters did say that they were quite frightened of sm this weekend. I'm sure it must not be abuse if there is no bruising, but is there any way I can document this situation just in case her behavior escalates in the future, so we have some sort of past record of her behaviors?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

My girls were just dropped off early from their father's house. My 9 year old came daughter in and told me that when they were visiting this weekend, stepmom became angry and grabbed 9 by the arm and literally picked her up by one arm while she was yelling and screaming at her. (9 was on the floor sitting down and sm grabbed her arm angrily and picked her up to a standing position.) The girls both stated that they were very frightened and that they told their daddy and he said he "thinks it's because of the drugs she's on, that's why she is acting this way lately".

Stepmom has a back injury and is apparently on painkillers or something. Her behavior has gotten pretty aggressive lately, including posting some pictures of me and my husband on a public website along with a bunch of pretty horrible things about us. I was hoping that she might be able to separate her anger towards me from the children this visit, but they said she was angry all weekend and yelling a lot.

I'd really like to know what my options are in this matter-I want to state that 9 does NOT have any bruising or continued pain, but she and her sisters did say that they were quite frightened of sm this weekend. I'm sure it must not be abuse if there is no bruising, but is there any way I can document this situation just in case her behavior escalates in the future, so we have some sort of past record of her behaviors?

You can certainly document it (IE write it down in a log and keep a regular log) and you can certainly discuss it with dad, but other than that, there really isn't anything that you can do at this point. She hasn't committed abuse at this point. I do understand your concern but there is honestly nothing to be done now.

Also, I would be cautious because its difficult to see how someone with a back injury could have even DONE that.

 

[summerdawn]

You can certainly document it (IE write it down in a log and keep a regular log) and you can certainly discuss it with dad, but other than that, there really isn't anything that you can do at this point. She hasn't committed abuse at this point. I do understand your concern but there is honestly nothing to be done now.

Also, I would be cautious because its difficult to see how someone with a back injury could have even DONE that.

She manages to do a LOT of stuff that a person with a back injury shouldn't be able to do-including going to the gym to work out.

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

My girls were just dropped off early from their father's house. My 9 year old came daughter in and told me that when they were visiting this weekend, stepmom became angry and grabbed 9 by the arm and literally picked her up by one arm while she was yelling and screaming at her. (9 was on the floor sitting down and sm grabbed her arm angrily and picked her up to a standing position.) The girls both stated that they were very frightened and that they told their daddy and he said he "thinks it's because of the drugs she's on, that's why she is acting this way lately".

Stepmom has a back injury and is apparently on painkillers or something. Her behavior has gotten pretty aggressive lately, including posting some pictures of me and my husband on a public website along with a bunch of pretty horrible things about us. I was hoping that she might be able to separate her anger towards me from the children this visit, but they said she was angry all weekend and yelling a lot.

I'd really like to know what my options are in this matter-I want to state that 9 does NOT have any bruising or continued pain, but she and her sisters did say that they were quite frightened of sm this weekend. I'm sure it must not be abuse if there is no bruising, but is there any way I can document this situation just in case her behavior escalates in the future, so we have some sort of past record of her behaviors?

In addition to Ld's comments, I would suggest that they talk with a school counselor about it.

As for the pictures about you, you can complain to the web site and have them removed. If they are slanderous, ask your attorney about filing a complaint.

 

[summerdawn]

In addition to Ld's comments, I would suggest that they talk with a school counselor about it.

As for the pictures about you, you can complain to the web site and have them removed. If they are slanderous, ask your attorney about filing a complaint.

Oh, wow. I didn't even know I could do that. I figured I had to legally just suck it up and ignore it lol. I don't know if she is even doing anything illegal, as it doesn't have my name to identify but it DOES have my pics-unless she took them off recently. I thought she had to name me online or something for it to be slander. I could care less, it is just making her look kind of out there. I only posted it to show that she has been getting more and more aggressive recently. She has a whole online website pretty much dedicated to saying bad stuff about me, but for the first time ever she actually put MY pictures on it that she took off my own blog. It was really creepy.