Need ALOT of advice

[svunicorn49]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I am in California and I need to know being that I am involved in a family business how hard it would be to divorce my husband? There is nothing in my name except my in laws took it upon themselves to put the income for THEIR business in my and my husbands name. My father in law put me in charge of all their finances when my mother in law became immobile due to surgery so I was also taken out of the business and made basically to stay at their house taking care of ALL her needs. I was given credit cards of theirs to do any purchases for them because my father in law refuses to use their checkbook. So I have had to use them to pay some of their bills to keep things going. Can I get in trouble for that being I didn't inform them of the manner I had to use them? I was just basically suppose to make sure all business and personal finances were taken care of and I've done my best. I just want to know when I leave can I take what I want that is legally mine and can his parents come after me.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I am in California and I need to know being that I am involved in a family business how hard it would be to divorce my husband? There is nothing in my name except my in laws took it upon themselves to put the income for THEIR business in my and my husbands name. My father in law put me in charge of all their finances when my mother in law became immobile due to surgery so I was also taken out of the business and made basically to stay at their house taking care of ALL her needs. I was given credit cards of theirs to do any purchases for them because my father in law refuses to use their checkbook. So I have had to use them to pay some of their bills to keep things going. Can I get in trouble for that being I didn't inform them of the manner I had to use them? I was just basically suppose to make sure all business and personal finances were taken care of and I've done my best. I just want to know when I leave can I take what I want that is legally mine and can his parents come after me.

If you used their money/credit to pay their bills, they shouldn't be able to get you in any trouble. However, you are so vague I am not sure that I clearly understand what is going on.

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I am in California and I need to know being that I am involved in a family business how hard it would be to divorce my husband? There is nothing in my name except my in laws took it upon themselves to put the income for THEIR business in my and my husbands name. My father in law put me in charge of all their finances when my mother in law became immobile due to surgery so I was also taken out of the business and made basically to stay at their house taking care of ALL her needs. I was given credit cards of theirs to do any purchases for them because my father in law refuses to use their checkbook. So I have had to use them to pay some of their bills to keep things going. Can I get in trouble for that being I didn't inform them of the manner I had to use them? I was just basically suppose to make sure all business and personal finances were taken care of and I've done my best. I just want to know when I leave can I take what I want that is legally mine and can his parents come after me.

You're really going to have to be a lot more specific if you want help - or go see an attorney.

In general, though, if you haven't done anything illegal or embezzled any money, then you are free to quit and leave. You can take the things that are legally yours. However, it may not be so simple to figure out what's legally yours.

 

[svunicorn49]

Well it all comes down to money for my in laws. For them if you don't have money, you have nothing. What I am worried about ids the debt I will leave behind that is legally theirs. They have never had a credit card balance and now they do because that's what my father in law has me use for all their shopping, gas, car maintenance, anything for physical care taking of my mother in law, prescriptions, etc. He expected me to pay the balance every month, but with the way things get around this small town of ours,( my husband and is extra curricular activities) business has went down and money has been scarce and I have been unable to pay the balance, but have been keeping up the payments because everything is in their names and lord forbid if you are ever late with a payment of theirs because my oh so perfect mother in law has never had a dent in he r credit, but she has always had the cash to fall back on which is another story. I mean for someone to sit around on thousands of dollars in their bank account and claim they are always broke makes me sick. She watches my husband and I struggle and even her own grand kids and my kids both work and bust their buts as do I but their "king" son doesn't do a dam thing. I fact I am the one that does EVERYTHING for HIS parents while he does nothing but drink from morning until bed and the gets stoned after work. Ya life is great.

 

[Zigner]

Well it all comes down to money for my in laws. For them if you don't have money, you have nothing. What I am worried about ids the debt I will leave behind that is legally theirs. They have never had a credit card balance and now they do because that's what my father in law has me use for all their shopping, gas, car maintenance, anything for physical care taking of my mother in law, prescriptions, etc. He expected me to pay the balance every month, but with the way things get around this small town of ours,( my husband and is extra curricular activities) business has went down and money has been scarce and I have been unable to pay the balance, but have been keeping up the payments because everything is in their names and lord forbid if you are ever late with a payment of theirs because my oh so perfect mother in law has never had a dent in he r credit, but she has always had the cash to fall back on which is another story. I mean for someone to sit around on thousands of dollars in their bank account and claim they are always broke makes me sick. She watches my husband and I struggle and even her own grand kids and my kids both work and bust their buts as do I but their "king" son doesn't do a dam thing. I fact I am the one that does EVERYTHING for HIS parents while he does nothing but drink from morning until bed and the gets stoned after work. Ya life is great.

I'm sorry - but perhaps you should consider reporting them to the police for false imprisonment. I mean, according to your post, you were held against your will and forced to do all of these things, right?

 

[tuffbrk]

Well it all comes down to money for my in laws. For them if you don't have money, you have nothing. What I am worried about ids the debt I will leave behind that is legally theirs. They have never had a credit card balance and now they do because that's what my father in law has me use for all their shopping, gas, car maintenance, anything for physical care taking of my mother in law, prescriptions, etc. He expected me to pay the balance every month, but with the way things get around this small town of ours,( my husband and is extra curricular activities) business has went down and money has been scarce and I have been unable to pay the balance, but have been keeping up the payments because everything is in their names and lord forbid if you are ever late with a payment of theirs because my oh so perfect mother in law has never had a dent in he r credit, but she has always had the cash to fall back on which is another story. I mean for someone to sit around on thousands of dollars in their bank account and claim they are always broke makes me sick. She watches my husband and I struggle and even her own grand kids and my kids both work and bust their buts as do I but their "king" son doesn't do a dam thing. I fact I am the one that does EVERYTHING for HIS parents while he does nothing but drink from morning until bed and the gets stoned after work. Ya life is great.

I am really not following. Why don't you just let FIL know that there is a balance on the card as he has not provided enough funds to manage the house expenses and costs associated with caring for his wife?

Sorry but it sounds as if you perhaps used the CC to reimburse yourself with a little added on top as a result of your financial situation and you are worried that he will have you charged with fraud.

No one can make you take of your mother in law. No one can prevent you from taking a job outside of the house to support yourself and your children. If FIL objects, advise him he has to provide additional funding. If he cannot, then you cannot assist with taking care of his wife any longer and have to provide for yourself and your family. It appears that this is a choice that you are making.

 

[svunicorn49]

No I have not reimbursed myself for anything and you have to understand, these people that own my livelihood can take it away in a heart beat so if I don't do what I am asked to do then **** hits the fan. I am not allowed to get frustrated or have an attitude because my MIL doesn't put any effort into her rehabilitation and actually enjoys being waited on hand and foot. My FIL is her biggest enabler because he expects her to do stuff when she feels like it. Well she never feels like it, so she does nothing to help herself and he thinks we need to do it for her because it "appears" she still can't do it herself.This has been going on for over a year. When we moved up here it was with the intention that when they retired, it would be handed over to us with no strings attached. Well my MIL won't let go is why we are still only employees with their schedule C. It's just a bunch of BS. The reason I don't tell him the CC balance is because he will wonder why it hasn't been paid off. If I tell him it's because his business has gone to **** due to the fact that his son (my husband) has made a crappy reputation in our small town, i.e trading weed for food, then **** will hit the fan, I will lose everything which I really don't care because it's all theirs anyway. I just wanted some legal advice of if I go now what kind , if any, repercussions I am facing. Yes in a way, I am being made to take care of her because they still are my bosses and "what's it matter what I do as long as I am still getting paid" as my FIL says.

 

[mistoffolees]

No I have not reimbursed myself for anything and you have to understand, these people that own my livelihood can take it away in a heart beat so if I don't do what I am asked to do then **** hits the fan. I am not allowed to get frustrated or have an attitude because my MIL doesn't put any effort into her rehabilitation and actually enjoys being waited on hand and foot. My FIL is her biggest enabler because he expects her to do stuff when she feels like it. Well she never feels like it, so she does nothing to help herself and he thinks we need to do it for her because it "appears" she still can't do it herself.This has been going on for over a year. When we moved up here it was with the intention that when they retired, it would be handed over to us with no strings attached. Well my MIL won't let go is why we are still only employees with their schedule C. It's just a bunch of BS. The reason I don't tell him the CC balance is because he will wonder why it hasn't been paid off. If I tell him it's because his business has gone to **** due to the fact that his son (my husband) has made a crappy reputation in our small town, i.e trading weed for food, then **** will hit the fan, I will lose everything which I really don't care because it's all theirs anyway. I just wanted some legal advice of if I go now what kind , if any, repercussions I am facing. Yes in a way, I am being made to take care of her because they still are my bosses and "what's it matter what I do as long as I am still getting paid" as my FIL says.

You are free to leave any time you wish. They can't force you to do anything. Leave, get a job, and move on.

As for the rest, see post #3.

 

[cyjeff]

Way too much drama for a legal website.

You are not a slave. Leave when you wish. Take what you can easily claim is yours (clothes, personal effects, etc.)

Be upfront with your in-laws about the balances on the cards and the reason why... but don't belabor the point. "Business is down" you say, "therefore, there wasn't enough cash to pay down everything every month. You should speak to your son about ways to improve cash flow from the business."

Then pack your crap and leave.

Simple as that.

 

[svunicorn49]

cyjeff****************************..thank you so much! I think I just needed to hear it from someone else