Need help with family issue/ gifts from relative

[bluewalker]

Done, Thanks

 

[anteater]

Unless you enjoy the bickering, ignore the aunt and do what you think is right.

The next move, if there ever is one, is not yours. It is the aunts.

 

[commentator]

Aunt recently became her financial guardian, so she may be claiming that your grandmother was making poor financial decisions and saying that she was being taken advantage of. She'd love to shame you into giving back the money from the sale of the car, but I don't see that she has much of a leg to stand on here legally.

So go forward, be nice to your grandmother, (don't stop visiting her now that she's given you the presents)and see if Auntie can follow up on her threats. Elder financial abuse isn't just receiving one or two big presents from someone who could afford to give them, it would be more likely that she might show a pattern of your coming around and asking Grandma for money, and not coming around when you weren't going to be given anything or threatening not to visit if she didn't give you something.

 

[bluewalker]

Thanks for the advice. Turns out after talking to my Grandmother, she never actually said she wanted the money or car back. My Aunt did and used my Grandmother to convey the message which got mixed up a bit. Visiting my Grandmother yesterday with a witness, she reaffirmed wanting me to keep the car and any money she gave me was a gift that I never pressured her for. Now I have to see if I can try to get an independent court guardian to wrest any power my Aunt has away to impartial judgement.