Need help with family member.

[dennisg973]

What is the name of your state? Missouri. My girlfriend's aunt is declining in her health. She is unable to take care of her finacial desicions. My girlfriend and I are going to move in with her and take care of her and get her finances in order. Her aunt has no living children and her husband is long passed. Her aunt's only realatives is a sister that lives far off in another state and my girlfriends mother and my girlfriend. What I want to know is what we should do to make sure her aunts property is secure and that it stays within the family. As far as i know my girlfriend's aunt's sister has no intrest in her property. That leaves only my girlfriend and her mother to be reciepients of her estate. My girlfriends aunt is failin in health and will soon not be able to talk care of herself, which is why we are going to move in and help her. What do we need to do about her property and what would a POA do to help insure that her property doesnt end up in probate.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

What is the name of your state? Missouri. My girlfriend's aunt is declining in her health. She is unable to take care of her finacial desicions. My girlfriend and I are going to move in with her and take care of her and get her finances in order. Her aunt has no living children and her husband is long passed. Her aunt's only realatives is a sister that lives far off in another state and my girlfriends mother and my girlfriend. What I want to know is what we should do to make sure her aunts property is secure and that it stays within the family. As far as i know my girlfriend's aunt's sister has no intrest in her property. That leaves only my girlfriend and her mother to be reciepients of her estate. My girlfriends aunt is failin in health and will soon not be able to talk care of herself, which is why we are going to move in and help her. What do we need to do about her property and what would a POA do to help insure that her property doesnt end up in probate.

Based on your previous posts, you need to get your own financial, visitation and custody issues in order, otherwise your involvement may seem as if you are in this for personal gain.

 

[dennisg973]

This has nothing to do with my previous posts, I am doing this for my girlfriend and her family cause they are concerned about her aunt and whats going to happen with her and her property. We are concerned and going to help her. We just want advice on what we should do cause her aunt is not able or will not soon be able to make her own decisions.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Yes, but you are financialy strained, you are upset that your half brother received a large inheritance and your ex and your children are living with him, and you are upset with this and how your money is being spent, looks like your worthless brother has taken everything you hold dear from you. That DOES play a role when they look at the sincerity of your intentions living there and taking care or her and what you might do, it's called undue influence. This is not a situation entered into lightly. Your girlfriend needs to get counsel of an attorney to cover the basics.

 

[dennisg973]

If my girlfriend doesnt step in and take care of her, who is supposed to? Her aunt has no other family that can help her and my girlfriends mother dont get along with her aunt. Are we supposed to set and watch the state take everything or a nursing home?????

 

[rmet4nzkx]

What is so hard about having your girlfriend consult an elder care/probate attorney before jumping into this? No one here can tell you exactly what has to be done and if it isn't done you and your girlfriend could find yourselves in trouble for a number of problems when you step into a situation like this with a person in such frail condition.

 

[dennisg973]

We are talkin about a family member, Not some old lady, my g/f grew up going to her house and dont want to see her in a nursing home. As far as my problems, they have resolved and have no bearing on the situation at hand. All i want to know is if we need to get a POA over her to help. Her aunt has had problems with her bills and needs someone to manage her money and take care of her growing medical needs. I am a respiratory therapist and want to help because it is my g/f's (fiance actually) family. We do plan on having her draw up a living will. I just want to know what all a POA can do.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Then your fiancee and her aunt need to visit an elder care/probate attorney to draw up and explain the papers and her duties.

 

[BlondiePB]

Your girlfriend's aunt is a "vulnerable elder" who requires a professional that will not have a conflict of interest in the aunt's estate/assests. I suggest you become very, very familiar with elder abuse and financial exploitation of a vulnerable elder. Changing and or making estate papers for a vulnerable elder is elder abuse that is punishable with criminal charges and civil lawsuits.

 

[anteater]

I just want to know what all a POA can do.

While it may be unfounded, you do have to realize that, since your first post in this thread was 90% about the aunt's eventual passing and estate, it raises the suspicion level.

And that 90% of the first post indicates that you don't have the foggiest idea what you are talking about. Get to an attorney.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

While it may be unfounded, you do have to realize that, since your first post in this thread was 90% about the aunt's eventual passing and estate, it raises the suspicion level.

And that 90% of the first post indicates that you don't have the foggiest idea what you are talking about. Get to an attorney.

But that might make it more difficult to "help" the aunt