need help

[irritatedbyex]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
I need to know what I can do about my ex-wife taking my son without me knowing. My son lied to me about where he was staying, he asked to spend the night at his friends house but instead was at her house. When I found out where my son was at and left a message for her to bring my son home within 10 minutes, she drops him off at a restaurant down the street. This is the second time this has happened... What can I do?

 

[huskerfan41]

you can call the police -- and show them the order saying she is not to have him -- call it kidnappng or whatever...

you can file contempt charges on her...

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but, i think it is extremely SAD that a child has to lie to any parent about wanting to stay with the other parent -- and goes so far as to have to sneak to do this...

something is wrong with this picture.

 

[irritatedbyex]

That's the problem, 9 out of 10 times that he asks to spend extra time with his mother he is allowed to go without a problem. I don't know why he chose to lie or why she went along with it, maybe it's because she knows that I am upset about the fact that she thinks everything that happens down there is morally right... allowing my boys to be sexually active, smoke, drink, do drugs, steal bikes, drive her car the list goes on.... would you look the other way if your children were allowed to do this by the other parent and just allow it to happen? She gets him her allowed weekends plus if he asks to stay longer and her family lives in my neighborhood where she is at everyday. I never said anything about them seeing or talking to each other, I have just told them not to take off without me knowing. SO, why my son and his mother lied, my guess is as good as yours.......

 

[VeronicaGia]

It sounds like you're going to have to start following the court order word for word, meaning the other parent gets what is ordered, nothing more and nothing less. You're also going to have to decide what to do about the child lying to your face like that.

 

[huskerfan41]

That's the problem, 9 out of 10 times that he asks to spend extra time with his mother he is allowed to go without a problem. I don't know why he chose to lie or why she went along with it, maybe it's because she knows that I am upset about the fact that she thinks everything that happens down there is morally right... allowing my boys to be sexually active, smoke, drink, do drugs, steal bikes, drive her car the list goes on.... would you look the other way if your children were allowed to do this by the other parent and just allow it to happen? She gets him her allowed weekends plus if he asks to stay longer and her family lives in my neighborhood where she is at everyday. I never said anything about them seeing or talking to each other, I have just told them not to take off without me knowing. SO, why my son and his mother lied, my guess is as good as yours.......

can you PROVE that the mother allows these illegal acts -- or encourages these illegal acts?

 

[kat1963]

I don't have to guess. Look up do a search for PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). That's how it starts, little meetings, plotting against the other parent. (see how smart we are and how stupid Daddy is?? You & me against that big bad man!) With the freedom she gives him sooner or later she'll file for custody & win because 1. the age of the child & the courts listening to their wants. 2. don't be suprised if you have some abuse allegations made against you...you mean parent!!!! In order to win custody of course, but not enough to put you in jail (someone has to pay support & you can't do it from the pokie!) Both of them are liars & in cahoots together. Sadly, you are probably going to be damned if you do continue allowing the extra visitation & damned if you decide to keep with the legal visitation ONLY.
Been there, done that, played the game.
Good Luck!
KAT