need opinion

[lisagr33]

What is the name of your state?TN. I had my children this weekend and I bumped into my ex's sister. She had not seen them since they left nor had she even heard from them. She asked if she could see them for just a couple of hours. I didn't see a problem with that and let her see them. She has not recently had a good relationship with her brother, my ex, because of an agruement that they had. I felt like she as well as her other sister who lives in town has as much right to see them as does my family who lives here. I don't want to cause problems between her and her brother because I let them play with their cousins whom they haven't seen since June 2005. She was just so happy that she even got to spend time with them. I know that when they are with me that my ex can't tell me what to do with my time but I don't want this to come back to bite me when we go to court in December. My ex mother-in-law called me to thank me for letting her daughter see them and asked that when I knew I was going to have them the next time to email her so that she could drive from Illinois and spend some time with them. I don't see a problem with that but I just want to do what is right for my children. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

 

[Isiah]

I think..

I think it is a wonderful thing you are doing. You are being a very healthy parent. You are putting your childrens wants and needs first. My husband has actually let his ex's own mother have visits with their son. His ex was and still is keeping her own mother from their child and my husband wasn't going to do that.When my husband WAS(not any more) getting visitation(during the last custody dipute) He would split the time with us and who ever else was being denied a chance to see their son.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state?TN. I had my children this weekend and I bumped into my ex's sister. She had not seen them since they left nor had she even heard from them. She asked if she could see them for just a couple of hours. I didn't see a problem with that and let her see them. She has not recently had a good relationship with her brother, my ex, because of an agruement that they had. I felt like she as well as her other sister who lives in town has as much right to see them as does my family who lives here. I don't want to cause problems between her and her brother because I let them play with their cousins whom they haven't seen since June 2005. She was just so happy that she even got to spend time with them. I know that when they are with me that my ex can't tell me what to do with my time but I don't want this to come back to bite me when we go to court in December. My ex mother-in-law called me to thank me for letting her daughter see them and asked that when I knew I was going to have them the next time to email her so that she could drive from Illinois and spend some time with them. I don't see a problem with that but I just want to do what is right for my children. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

It's always a good idea to encourage children spending time with extended family. It won't do anything to your case come December- If X complains, he'll look like an idiot.

 

[VeronicaGia]

What you do on your court ordered time is your business.

 

[Isiah]

actually...

speaking of ex's complaining. During my hubby's last custody dispute. My husband had his visitation and he let their child go to an amusement park with his sister. After returning him to the ex ,the ex called the evaluator and bitched because the visiting time was only suppose tbe with us and nobody else.The only thing the evalutor said to the ex was "Are you kidding"? "Why are you calling me with this"?.

 

[barrett21]

same thing here

TN. The same thing happened here with my husband he let his son go with his sister and her kids to the pool while he went to court over him one day during his summer visitation and in the next set of court papers he got before court she complained about it the Judge said that was nothing more than nit picking he didn't hear nothing else about that. He invite's his ex's parents to birthday parties and everything just like all our families.