Need some advice!!!!!!!!!!!!

[justmejordan]

I hear a lot of people on here talk about negative issues with ex and how the stepchild/parenting is very difficult. I am with a wonderful, loving man and have been for about a year and a half. During our relationship his prior g/f became pregant. Since this time, we have remained together but aren't very comfortable discussing a lot of things relating to his child and how difficult his ex can be in the situation. We now live together and we are a distance from his child. We have talked about marriage and so forth. I do not have any children currently but do plan on trying in the future. I just wanted some advice, thoughts or wisdom from others on their situations. I sometimes dread the future in this situation. It hurts knowing he has experienced the wonder and joys of child birth and holding that creation in your arms and it is something I can not relate to. I him and his child to have a close and loving relationship and I will encourage and suppor that. I do have many fears to the future, bringing another child into this picture, his very controlling and manipulative ex girlfriend, his financial situation with child support, my feelings of being left out and issues not being discussed with me such as visitation, etc., never spending a holiday at our home because we have to go back there so he can be with his son at his mother's house instead of being able to bring him here....just basic issues like that. I am curious to hear about others experiences. I know I really need to decide if this is the best situation for me to be/get more involved with. I have ranges of emotions, I cry a lot because it hurts so much. I love his child already and he is such a wonderful baby, but I feel so many feelings that I just don't know what to do half the time and I paint these horrible images of how it is going to be. This was never the life I envisioned and I never wanted a split/step family, but this is the man I fell in love with

 

[sadeyes24]

dont feel like your left out .

hello im sorry about your situation , right now im in the middle of a divorce i have 2 kids , and im also with my fiance we have been together for 1yr and 5months he also has been married before and has 2 kids himself at times yes it can be hard but dont lethis ex get to you , thats what they all try to do cause at first his ex tried her hardest to make me feel unwanted . both of his girls adore me and i adore them i love them like my own . and he adores and loves my two kids also. we are just like one big family even though our exes can be buttholes. we have to get along for our kds sake . and you shouldnt feel like you reallyshouldnt be having a baby withthis man because of his ex and there child together . just as long as he loves you and both kids it should matter . so please hun dont feel left out and trust me there is plenty of good ppl on this board who will guide you through and give you advice along the way. and im am one of those ppl willing to help you . hope everything goes good for you ..... good luck sadeyes24 and if you ever wanna email me my addy is [email protected] and you can if you have msn messanger you can add me to your buddy list thats if you want to . byebyes for now ................ and keep your head up high girl and told that that EX get you in a blue mood .