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[LIAWOS03]

What is the name of your state?Tennessee
I met this guy at my aunts church. He is an awsome singer and a very Godly person. BUt he is 18 and I am 13 would it be legal for us to date?? since i am a minor? We wouldn't like have sex or anything. But he lives in Alabama so i don't know what laws apply there either.

Thanks bunch!!
LIAWOS03

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state?Tennessee
I met this guy at my aunts church. He is an awsome singer and a very Godly person. BUt he is 18 and I am 13 would it be legal for us to date?? since i am a minor? We wouldn't like have sex or anything. But he lives in Alabama so i don't know what laws apply there either.

Thanks bunch!!
LIAWOS03

My response:

It's perfectly normal and acceptable, in both Tennessee and Alabama, for a 13 year old to be dating an 18 year old. Just make sure that one of you lives in a trailer - - otherwise it would be odd.

So, you wouldn't have "sex or anything"? What was the "anything" you had in mind?

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

What is the name of your state?Tennessee
I met this guy at my aunts church. He is an awsome singer and a very Godly person. BUt he is 18 and I am 13 would it be legal for us to date?? since i am a minor? We wouldn't like have sex or anything. But he lives in Alabama so i don't know what laws apply there either.

Thanks bunch!!
LIAWOS03

Please understand, he probably has other young ladies in other churches he visits that are older than you and have the same idea, so you will have a lot of rivals. You would be advised to have your parents permission and some counseling by your pastor, elders, deacons or leaders from your youth group and don't be surprised or hurt if he tells you that you ae too young.

 

[LIAWOS03]

My response:

It's perfectly normal and acceptable, in both Tennessee and Alabama, for a 13 year old to be dating an 18 year old. Just make sure that one of you lives in a trailer - - otherwise it would be odd.

So, you wouldn't have "sex or anything"? What was the "anything" you had in mind?

IAAL

I wasn't think about a certain any thing i just meant things unapropriate for unmarried people thanks for the advice

 

[LIAWOS03]

Please understand, he probably has other young ladies in other churches he visits that are older than you and have the same idea, so you will have a lot of rivals. You would be advised to have your parents permission and some counseling by your pastor, elders, deacons or leaders from your youth group and don't be surprised or hurt if he tells you that you ae too young.

I understand that he might not have any intrest in me and everything and I know that I should not go behind my parents back and stuff. Thanks for the advice!! I surely don't wanna be hurt!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Please understand, he probably has other young ladies in other churches he visits that are older than you and have the same idea, so you will have a lot of rivals.

MY RESPONSE: Yes, especially if he's "Godly". He probably has a 13 year old in each of the twelve churches he sings in.




You would be advised to have your parents permission and some counseling by your pastor, elders, deacons or leaders from your youth group

MY RESPONSE: You forgot Rabbi and Priest.




and don't be surprised or hurt if he tells you that you ae too young.

MY RESPONSE: You have GOT to be kidding!! In Tennessee and Alabama, to have a 13 year old is like hitting the jackpot!! Nice, young, thing . . . Mmmmmm, tasty!

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Please understand, he probably has other young ladies in other churches he visits that are older than you and have the same idea, so you will have a lot of rivals.

MY RESPONSE: Yes, especially if he's "Godly". He probably has a 13 year old in each of the twelve churches he sings in.




You would be advised to have your parents permission and some counseling by your pastor, elders, deacons or leaders from your youth group

MY RESPONSE: You forgot Rabbi and Priest.




and don't be surprised or hurt if he tells you that you ae too young.

MY RESPONSE: You have GOT to be kidding!! In Tennessee and Alabama, to have a 13 year old is like hitting the jackpot!! Nice, young, thing . . . Mmmmmm, tasty!

IAAL

Actually I was thinking, "Goodness, Gracious, Great Balls of Fire - Jerry Lee Lewis

Young church muscians will always have a following, of young girls, Chruch groupies, they will be encouraged by their mothers.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

I wasn't think about a certain any thing i just meant things unapropriate for unmarried people thanks for the advice

My response:

You may as well learn how to spell while you're young. The word is "inappropriate". The only thing "inappropriate" would be an 18 year old "interested" in a 13 year old. You, on the other hand, have your hormones raging. That's why you have goo-goo eyes at age 13.

However, in both States, such "affairs" are not uncommon. One thing in your favor: At least he's not a family member.

IAAL

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Young lady, I want you to read Ecclesiastes 3 in the Bible, and then tell me how that applies to you and your situation.

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

My response:

Young lady, I want you to read Ecclesiastes 3 in the Bible, and then tell me how that applies to you and your situation.

IAAL

one of my favorites, I knew we'd get a song from you yet
There are the lyrics for OP's edification
Turn! Turn! Turn! (To Everything There Is a Season)
The Byrds
words adapted from the Book of Ecclesiastes by Pete Seeger
music by Pete Seeger

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time of war, a time of peace
A time of love, a time of hate
A time you may embrace
A time to refrain from embracing

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time of peace, I swear it's not too late!

 

[LIAWOS03]

My response:

Young lady, I want you to read Ecclesiastes 3 in the Bible, and then tell me how that applies to you and your situation.

IAAL

I read it. All I got fromit was there is a time for everything. But exactly how does that apply to me??

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

I read it. All I got fromit was there is a time for everything. But exactly how does that apply to me??

My response:

It means that it's not your time yet. You're too young to be having goo-goo eyes for anyone yet - - especially an 18 year old. In other words, even though your hormones are going crazy, you're not mature enough to do anything and understand what you're doing. You might think you do, but the reality is that you don't. You don't even understand why you're having feelings for the 18 year old guy - - all you know is that you do.

You're like an unripened fruit. Still on the sour side.

Give it a few more years - - like until you're 18. You don't want to become another Welfare/Unwed mother.

There is a time, and there is a season for everything. This isn't yours yet.

IAAL

 

[LIAWOS03]

My response:

It means that it's not your time yet. You're too young to be having goo-goo eyes for anyone yet - - especially an 18 year old. In other words, even though your hormones are going crazy, you're not mature enough to do anything and understand what you're doing. You might think you do, but the reality is that you don't. You don't even understand why you're having feelings for the 18 year old guy - - all you know is that you do.

You're like an unripened fruit. Still on the sour side.

Give it a few more years - - like until you're 18. You don't want to become another Welfare/Unwed mother.

There is a time, and there is a season for everything. This isn't yours yet.

IAAL

OK thanks now I understand

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

OK thanks now I understand

My response:

You're welcome. You see, your question is typical in Tennessee - - because it's the stereotype; hence, my initial response to you, above. Do your best to break that stereotype. It doesn't matter what your friends say to you - - it's not alright, at 13, 14, 15, 16, or 17 to "act" upon your sexual urges. Make a difference. Make your parents proud of you (I'm sure they are, but they need continual reminders) that you're becoming a "responsible" young lady.

Besides, you'll have hundreds of opportunities - - believe me. Guys are a dime-a-dozen. You'll know when the time and season is right. You're a smart kid. But, that's what you are - - a kid. Give yourself the time you need to grow into the beautiful young lady you'll be.

IAAL

 

[stealth2]

Bravo, IAAL.