Need some useful advice

[cablsurvivor]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? VA

I currently live in MD and my ex-wife lives in VA with my son. She also has two more sons from different relationships in the past; more easily put would be to state that all 3 boys have different fathers. Through a previous court battle with my ex-wife I was awarded custody one weekend a month, a week during Christmas and the month of July each year. Here's the kicker; It was also noted that my son is to have no contact with the third father because he was awaiting trial for felony drug distribution. We are currently headed back to court because she has violated the court order and has allowed this individual to live in her home around my son now that he is out of prison. Since I have filed, she has filed a motion to amend the court order. She feels that this individual is a new person after spending approximately a year in Diversion and Detention. My ex-wife's arraignment was just recently and just a few days after she was made aware of the charges against her, she was spotted traveling with my son and the individual that is not to have any contact with my son. My question is. How do I protect my son when a court order doesn't protect him. Am I suppose to allow this to continue until July when our court date is set. Her attorney has moved the court date apparently because of a scheduling conflict. What can I do?

 

[Zephyr]

if you can, keep getting documentation for everytime she is in violation of your court order.

 

[BL]

if you can, keep getting documentation for everytime she is in violation of your court order.

Well hopefully this individual is clean and decent .

If you see proof that there is illegal drug use again , call a Complaint to Child Protectives , otherwise wait it out , and keep documenting any and all violations .

 

[cablsurvivor]

One of the things I continue to struggle with is whether I should relocate to my son's hometown and fight for full custody or whether I should continue to fight for full custody here out of state. My son is 12 years old and prefers I relocate back home, but he does not realize the difficulties of employment in his area. It seems that a judge tends to go with the childs decision on where he chooses to live. He wants to spend a majority of his time with me if I move back home, but it makes things difficult. She has been found guilty once in regards to this court order, and if found guilty this will be the second time she has been in violation of the court order. Should I relocate and back to VA or will the judge take into consideration the fact she is simply not going to follow the court order. The first time she violated the order nothing was done.

 

[Zephyr]

if it were me: I would definitely try to move back to son's area, I do think that would be better in the custody battle if the child were not going to have to switch schools, friends,activities and would still be able to see other parent regularly.