Need to move,have primary custody

[LdyG3]

What is the name of your state? Pennsylvania

I am in need of help with a custody issue between me and my exhusband. I have Primary Custody of my 2 children from the marriage,,I am now remarried with a third child, and my husband is needing to move to take care of his mother who is in Washington state. My husband had lived there and took care of his mother full time till we had married in 2001, then he move here to PA and his mother found another caregiver,,but now the caregiver cannot do for his mother much longer. She is in a wheelchair and has many illnessess. and a live in aid is necessary since she cannot care for herself. and is unable to move here. I talked to my ex husband and he said he doesn't want me moving there with the children. I even told him i would improvise on the visitation...he is not wanting the children to even move outta town...My husband has to go to care for his mother, how can i do this? I cannot afford court fees...And my husbands mother needs him to move asap.. Please help!

 

[Grace_Adler]

I'm sorry but as far as I know, I don't think you have any options except to make this legal and go to court. I think you will have to request a modification of the visitation and custody order. See the thing is if you up and move without doing so, there is a chance he could file for a emergency custody order and get the kids temp. because of you moving with them. Sorry I don't know more or have better news.

 

[LdyG3]

Thank you Grace for the advice, I have been doing more research into this...I found out more but as for the court system,,It is not there yet, I am trying to get my ex husband to understand that it is necessary and that my children will most definetly have a better life and that his time with the children will not be affected ...just change in structure. I am going through a lawyer now,,,but we are looking at keeping this out of court because of money and time . ......and to add more frustration,,my ex has a learning disabilty that hinders his decision . but his mother is the only one who can get through to him and she wont even talk to me about it. All she thinks and tells my ex is i cannot move no matter what with my kids..and that i dont know what i am doing. any more advice is helpful,,,any web sites i can go to that anyone knows please let me know.

 

[Grace_Adler]

Well the way I see it there is a way to do everything..the key is finding it. It's good that you are consulting with a lawyer on this. If you can show how this is necessary and will benefit the kids, from my understanding that's what will benefit you. Since he has a learning disability that renders him from making certain decisions I don't know how the courts would look at this. As for web sites I can give you a couple. The first one is for statutes, which you may have to do some digging and the other pertains to many issues, I'm not sure how helpful it will be though. I also have a couple of others that may have some info.

http://polisci.com/web/slegis.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com
http://www.findlaw.com
http://www.alllaw.com

 

[LdyG3]

State=Pennsylvania

Thank you again Grace. I really appreciate Your info on helping me. I will look futher in to the sites you given me. I am finding out there is a way to get through everything, like you said.