Need urgent help with Dad in NH

[Paulette Carp]

What is the name of your state? My dad is in Michigan...I am in Ohio..
My Dad has been placed in a NH by my step-mom who has POA. He has Alzheimer's and is in the moderate stages. ALthough he has lost a lot of his verbal skills, he is still able to voice that he doesn't want to live in a nursing home and would rather live with me. It seems that he has no rights left at all. My step-mom absolutely refuses to let him come home with me and has instructed the NH not to tell me anything. I also called Dad's doctor and asked about how he felt about me taking Dad home and he was fine with it. However, since last week, my step-mom has called him as well and have instructed them not to talk with me. My lawyer is doubtful that I could get guardianship of Dad, over my step-mom and that if I petition for it and lose, she could stop me from seeing Dad at all. Also, does Dad still have the right to sign a paper stating that he wants me informed of all medical decisions or problems at the NH? Yesterday, Dad was so angry about not being able to get out, that the NH had to chemically restrain him and when I visited, he was so out of it, he was sitting in urine soaked clothes. Something that has NEVER happened. They could have avoided the whole thing with a phone call from me...Thanks..Paulette

 

[seniorjudge]

What is the name of your state? My dad is in Michigan...I am in Ohio..
My Dad has been placed in a NH by my step-mom who has POA. He has Alzheimer's and is in the moderate stages. ALthough he has lost a lot of his verbal skills, he is still able to voice that he doesn't want to live in a nursing home and would rather live with me. It seems that he has no rights left at all. My step-mom absolutely refuses to let him come home with me and has instructed the NH not to tell me anything. I also called Dad's doctor and asked about how he felt about me taking Dad home and he was fine with it. However, since last week, my step-mom has called him as well and have instructed them not to talk with me. My lawyer is doubtful that I could get guardianship of Dad, over my step-mom and that if I petition for it and lose, she could stop me from seeing Dad at all. Also, does Dad still have the right to sign a paper stating that he wants me informed of all medical decisions or problems at the NH? Yesterday, Dad was so angry about not being able to get out, that the NH had to chemically restrain him and when I visited, he was so out of it, he was sitting in urine soaked clothes. Something that has NEVER happened. They could have avoided the whole thing with a phone call from me...Thanks..Paulette

Get another lawyer and file for guardianship of your dad.

 

[Paulette Carp]

guardianship

Will a probate judge be able to grant guardianship to someone residing in anither state? I was told that this was unlikely...

 

[seniorjudge]

Will a probate judge be able to grant guardianship to someone residing in anither state? I was told that this was unlikely...

The probate judge and state law would govern the answer to that question.

 

[kcjmcph]

I am NOT a professional, but in the same type of situation. The POA only governs certain things...your Dad may be able to appoint a new POA....question the home about your Dad being left in the state that he was in...think about intervention from a state agency
Good luck

 

[seniorjudge]

I am NOT a professional, but in the same type of situation. The POA only governs certain things...your Dad may be able to appoint a new POA....question the home about your Dad being left in the state that he was in...think about intervention from a state agency
Good luck

Pa is incompetent (according to OP) and thus cannot execute a new POA.