new car but in arrears for support

[onmytime]

What is the name of your state? AZ

I'm very frustrated at this point. In April it was ordered for my son's father pay support, however his attorney submitted paperwork for the support not be taken in order to recalculate the days. To sum it all up my son's father is in arrears nearly $3000, he refuses to pay the amount the court ordered him to pay(which is wrong in his favor) and continues to give me what he thinks he should. My mother watches our son because I can't afford daycare until all of this child support stuff is settled. I refuse to pay for daycare on my own. I can't afford not to be able to pay my bills because my money has gone to the daycare.

I am seeing a new attorney on Monday to try and get this resolved, my current attorney doesn't return calls & is not doing a satisfactory job. I have a another court date Aug 19 and would like to get the correct amount for support and have child care figured in the child support amount so our son can go to daycare.

This past weekend when I picked my son up from his home he had a brand new Infiniti car to compliment is Land Rover that he already has. I was furious! I never want to see my son's father doing bad and I'm not jealous but I don't understand how he can be so selfish. How is it that he can make big purchases and not pay what he owes first.

What information should I take to this new lawyer I'm meeting with? Should I bring up the fact that he has a new car? Does it make a difference? I just don't understand how his son doesn't come first.

 

[nextwife]

Do you know it's HIS car? I was just driving my husband's new van, because I dropped him off at the airport. So, if a person saw me driving it, or it was parked in the driveway, does that make it MINE?

Also, in my old job, the employer leased a car, intended for me to use as part of the employment package, because I need to do a lot of running around for them all over the place AND PUT A TON OF MILES ON FOR THEM. That wasn't my car, either, but I drove it.

 

[onmytime]

Do I know for sure that it's "his" new car. Like, I have I seen the fiance papers? No, but what I do know is that the old white car that use to sit next to his Land Rover has now been replaced with the shiny new Infiniti. Could it be a company car? No. Could it be a loaner? I don't know too many places that when you take a mazda in you get a loaner Infiniti.

My deal is I know him well enough to know that the car is his and he still is not paying what he should. But instead buying what he wants with money that should be paying arrears and current support. As I said before more power to him if he wants bigger & better but not at my expensive or our son's.

 

[Rufie]

Do you have a case open with Child Support Services? That may help you collect what is DUE and not what he THINKS he should pay. I have heard those exact words every month. My ex will be at a contempt hearing soon due to not paying for 9+ months and just started paying again (same job right after being served the papers, poof! paychecks appear again) only half of what he was paying prior. Good thing is Arrears will add up (mine $67,000+) and it will catch up to him sooner or later. Seeing that new car right before not paying for 9 + months got me going also. Try not to let it bother you or he is doing exactly what he wanted to!!

 

[kayceebee]

Just a "I understand!" With my ex, it has been a new truck, a quad runner, 5 acres, another 20 acres, cattle..... all come before my kids. He's not behind like a lot of people experience, so I'm not trying to complain - but it's unpredictable. He has always (3 years) paid me direct - just this week, I started the ball rolling to have him pay through the system.

Good Luck!

 

[onmytime]

Yes I have a case open but I truly believe my attorney his not doing his job. All of this as been a learning experience. I went with an older atty while my son's father has an atty that has only been practicing for 5 years and in my eyes his doing a far better job. I hate to say that because it hurts. This has been going on for a year and child support still has not been established.

Thanks for all the advice.