No legal help, just advice

[Rochelle]

I am going nuts here in MS. My husband's ex and my husband can not communicate at all when it comes to their child. I am sick to death of their stupid bickering. He doesn't get home until after 6 in the evenings, so she'll try to call our house at 4:00. We have caller ID and an answering machine, but she never leaves a message. The papers say he can call until 8 at night, and he can never get anyone to answer. He leaves messages, but she never calls back. Writes letters-she never responds. On the rare occassion he does get someone to answer, and he has a question about their child's medicine or a doctor visit or grades at school or etc-the mother tells the child what to say. Or he tells the child to "ask Mama about so-and-so" instead of saying "Let me speak to your mother." I makes me crazy. They were adult enough to make the child, be adult enough to discuss her welfare. I feel like they put the child in the middle and its not fair to her. For instance, last night he called and the child answered. He spoke to her for about ten minutes and then asked to speak to the mother. The mother gets on the phone and he asked her that in the future to please call after 6 and talk to him personally and she said "Unbelievable. Talk to your daughter" and handed the child the phone. And then tells the child to "tell your daddy I have a life too" and he says "Tell your Mama I said 6." I mean, its idiotic. Has anybody else been in this situation and found a solution? It's making me want to smack their heads together. They're acting like they're about their daughter's age.

 

[crystal2]

Have you talked to him about how you feel? I realized that my husband and his ex just like to argue. With time, it has gotten much better, but every now and then they will have a huge arguement over something dumb. It is mostly her- he hangs up on her over and over and she will keep on calling. But it's him too- he could just not answer the phone and eventually she will cool down! I don't know how long you 2 have been together, but I would guess that it will get better with time. I would talk to him and let him know how you feel. If him and the ex have to fight, then that's one thing, but they definitely should not bring the child into it. That will only hurt the kid and your husband needs to understand that.

 

[Rochelle]

Thanks for your reply. We argued ourselves last night after he hung up the phone. I told him it was crazy and that it was a shame they have to act that way. We've been married 2 years. Sometimes, I feel like just giving up and saying to heck with it.