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[Sachiko96]

Zigner,

First who is WADR?

Second, if this was meant towards me.....it is my fight. I find it unfortunate that you this it isn't. This concerns my husband's child who WE have custody of. He lives with us 99.9% of the time...and my husband has asked me to seek out any avenues of research, advice etc prior to seeking out help via attorney.

I consider the child my own. I have known him and vice versa since he was 9 months old. I have taken lots of my time and effort to help him advance himself and I have help care for him for the majority of his life. And he considers me his Mom, and calls me as such. So, yes this concerns me. I care for him a lot.

I know I am not entitled to anything from the biological mother, but my husband is. He has a court order for CS in place and has not received it. We have had custody of his son for almost 10 years now and have only seen $1000 in financial support from his Mom.

Lots of heartache and tears on the part of my step son, due to his Mom. Which we could all do without. The least she could do is be responsible...right?

 

[moburkes]

Please pull out the custody papers. Your husband has custody of HIS child. You are married to him, but you don't have custody.

 

[BL]

my husband has asked me to seek out any avenues of research, advice etc prior to seeking out help via attorney.

Have you even been comprehending what you are being told ?

Tell your hubby put it on the back burner , and you do the same .

You will be wasting your money on an Attorney .

It seems CSE has already given you correct answers that you don't want to hear .

You can't get blood out of a stone .

 

[Sachiko96]

moburkes,

I understand that HE has custody of my step son. I KNOW that, I'm not an idiot. So, because we are a family I know legally that doesn't mean squat. Obviously here it doesn't mean that either. Because honestly so what if I legally don't have custody? I care about my husband, and my step son. Is that a crime? I want what they want.....so sorry.


Blond Lebinese,

I guess we were looking for other avenues to change the law. To see if there were any other loopholes to seek further action. It's not that we don't want to hear it, it's just that we find that it's frustrating. That you, me and every other person out there, that works hard for a living has to scrape by....but someone like her is able to do nothing and get a free lunch. And a free pass because she is on welfare. I know life isn't fair, but gimme a break.

I guess we don't always like to take things at face value. I guess, this is not the place to seek help. I see lots of people picked on and slammed here because they are frustrated with the system.

So, I am sorry if I have come acros as vindictive, or an idiot. Because I know I am not.

 

[Silverplum]

I guess we were looking for other avenues to change the law. To see if there were any other loopholes to seek further action.

If you want to change the law, work on that. It's not going to happen here on FA.

 

[Sachiko96]

I can see that.

Thanks for your help.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You can't make anyone responsible. My standard line is ... if they weren't responsible when you were married to them, what makes you think they'll be responsible when you are divorced?

Trust me ... My daughter has a daddy who thinks he DESERVES all the parenting time, but when it comes to support his child, he stinks! My X won't file a tax return - even stated it in court. You aren't saying anything most of us haven't gone thru. I just pick my battles.