no where to live please help!!

[puddinpie003]

What is the name of your state? ohio
my husband just joined the army, hes been in basic for a few weeks, he doesnt get paid til the 15th ogf aug. or possibly the 1st of sept.our son and i got evicted and have nowhere to live, we literally have 200 dollars to survive on til he gets paid, i have tried talking to the recruiter to get help and he has no idea what to do. i dont know what to do for help. 200 dollars isnt enogh to get a place to live. the recruiter says theres no plan for when something like this happens, is this true? do i remain homeless while my husband trains to defend this country that has left us high and dry?

 

[enjay]

I don't mean to be insensitive, but you and your son should go to a shelter until you get back on your feet. It's great that your husband is in training, but this is a situation that didn't happen overnight and you can't expect the military to rush in and save you.

 

[puddinpie003]

so basically there is nothing i can do? i dont expect to be rescued but when a recruiter tells my husband that it is his job to make sure we are ok and taken care of, and doesnt , that makes feel i should be able to rely on him for help. was he lying every time he told that? just to get him to go?

 

[fozzy2]

I have a hard time believing that the recruiter didn't point you to 'Army Relief'. Check out web page:


http://www.aerhq.org/


As well as the Red Cross:

http://www.redcross.org/services/afes/0,1082,0_477_,00.html


These two agencies have a great deal of experience in situations like these.

 

[EThiker]

Army Community Services too!

Good call Fozzy2, excellent suggestions.

I would also recommend you contact Army Community Services at the nearest Army post to you. These organizations have been around since the mid 1960s. and will provide immediate relief and will offer you suggestions on budgeting and utilizing the commissary and exchanges.

I would also like to suggest that if and when you tell your husband about your situation, that you have contacted these organizations have worked out a plan for fixing the problem. That way, he will not feel more anxiety and a sense of helplessness while he is in basic.

Whatever you do, make sure you encourage him to stay the course and if he has any second thoughts or thinks he needs to leave, that he at least talk with someone first!

BTW, are you located near enough to your's or his family for them to be of help?

 

[puddinpie003]

thank you ssoooo much i called these places and within the an hour i was getting set up for help, i cant believe that the recruiter never told me about any of those web sites, i can finally breathe again. god bless you!

I have a hard time believing that the recruiter didn't point you to 'Army Relief'. Check out web page:


http://www.aerhq.org/


As well as the Red Cross:

http://www.redcross.org/services/afes/0,1082,0_477_,00.html


These two agencies have a great deal of experience in situations like these.

 

[puddinpie003]

Good call Fozzy2, excellent suggestions.


I would also like to suggest that if and when you tell your husband about your situation, that you have contacted these organizations have worked out a plan for fixing the problem. That way, he will not feel more anxiety and a sense of helplessness while he is in basic.

Whatever you do, make sure you encourage him to stay the course and if he has any second thoughts or thinks he needs to leave, that he at least talk with someone first!

BTW, are you located near enough to your's or his family for them to be of help?

i completely understand what your saying, i try to sound positive in letters,like you said i dont want him stressing out any more then he already is, he only has his mother and shes against his decision to join the army, shes a jehovahs witness, so is my mother, and they both live like 3 hours away, living with family is not an option, tho' i wish it was

 

[thepizzaguy]

I have a hard time believing that the recruiter didn't point you to 'Army Relief'. Check out web page:


http://www.aerhq.org/


As well as the Red Cross:

http://www.redcross.org/services/afes/0,1082,0_477_,00.html


These two agencies have a great deal of experience in situations like these.

Yeah nice job Fozzy! I always knew about the Red Cross but not Army Emergency Relief.

You have really proved yourself to be a wealth of information.

One does wonder why the recruiter didn't point the OP in that direction. Hmmm

 

[revere787]

It is nice to hear something good on this site. I am glad you guys helped her out with her situaion. It is too bad her husbands recruiter was a moron.

 

[puddinpie003]

It is nice to hear something good on this site. I am glad you guys helped her out with her situaion. It is too bad her husbands recruiter was a moron.

lol. how true! it is very interesting that he didnt tell me about it. i even told him that i would be sleeping in my car tonight, and he basically told me "that sucks". i called the red cross from the number i got off the web site and now all i have to do is find a place and tell them how much $$ i need and it will be taken care of, i can finally sleep tonight ( in my car...lol) fozzy'a a life saver