One more question.

[DesperateLover]

Okay, it's me again. The 15 year old lesbian from NY with the 18 year old girlfriend from CT. I appreciate all of your advice, even though it was obviously not what I wanted to hear. Anyways, my last question is: The age of consent in NY state is 17, so would my parents have no say in me seeing her then? (Assuming the relationship stays platonic until that point) Or would they still be able to pull the "you live under our roof" card? I'm assuming the latter. But even if I went behind their backs, which isn't right, they wouldn't be able to do anything other than ground me, because it'd be legal by then?

Sorry... I feel like I'm flooding the boards with really dumb questions.

~Michelle

 

[HomeGuru]

Okay, it's me again. The 15 year old lesbian from NY with the 18 year old girlfriend from CT. I appreciate all of your advice, even though it was obviously not what I wanted to hear. Anyways, my last question is: The age of consent in NY state is 17, so would my parents have no say in me seeing her then? (Assuming the relationship stays platonic until that point) Or would they still be able to pull the "you live under our roof" card?

**A: they can still say whatever they want to as long as you live in their house.
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I'm assuming the latter. But even if I went behind their backs, which isn't right, they wouldn't be able to do anything other than ground me, because it'd be legal by then?

**A: so you will be a grounded 17 year old consenting lesbian still living at home?
You need to be on Jerry Springer.

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Sorry... I feel like I'm flooding the boards with really dumb questions.

**A: that's funny. I feel the same.
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[DesperateLover]

"so you will be a grounded 17 year old consenting lesbian still living at home?
You need to be on Jerry Springer."

Err, how does that make me Jerry Springer material?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

"so you will be a grounded 17 year old consenting lesbian still living at home?
You need to be on Jerry Springer."

Err, how does that make me Jerry Springer material?

My response:

Do you think that the guests on the stage of the Jerry Springer Show realize THEY are "Springer material"? Just like you, the answer is: "No, they don't." But, they are!

IAAL

 

[cbg]

Michelle, as long as you are under 18, you are under your parents' control. You cannot move out without their consent, and they have every right to play the "while you're under our roof" card. So regardless of whether you are over the age of consent or not, if they say you don't see that girl until you're 18, then you don't see her until you're 18.

Got it?

 

[ladybandit79]

possible answer

I found this doing a websearch at www.empirestatecoalition.org
The last line is the important thing. It states that you have to be over 16 to be emancipated. May help you or it may not.


In New York State, there is no Emancipation Statute or court proceeding in which an Order of Emancipation can be obtained. In New York, the status of a youth as an Emancipated Minor depends on the facts. Whether an Emancipated Minor has the same rights as an adult depends upon the relevant law.

Emancipation does not give a minor adult status in all areas.

An Emancipated Minor is not allowed to vote;
An Emancipated Minor is still required to obtain parental consent to get working papers and is limited in the kindsof jobs he/she can perform;
An Emancipated Minor cannot bring a lawsuit and must have an adult commence any litigation on his/her behalf;
An Emancipated Minor cannot buy, sell or control real estate;
Age and consent requirements to marry apply regardless of emancipation;
An Emancipated Minor cannot join the military;
An Emancipated Minor is subject to statutory rape laws and age requirements governing consent;
An Emancipated Minor cannot get a learner's permit or driver's license without parental consent;
An Emancipated Minor cannot rent a campsite;
Parental consent is required to obtain routine health care. As in any case involving a minor, an emancipated minorcan obtain health care without parental consent when it involves an emergency, a sexually transmitted disease, family planning services, alcohol and mental health treatment, or if the minor is pregnant, a parent, or married.
Q. 1.2 Who can be considered an Emancipated Minor?

A. Although there is no court proceeding in New York to have a young person declared an Emancipated Minor, New York Law recognizes the status of emancipation and the rights of emancipated minors. To determine whether a young person is emancipated, the following factors are critical:

The youth must be living apart from his/her parents;
The youth must be self supporting (may be receiving public benefits or child support if required by court order);
The youth is not in need/receipt of foster care;
The youth is living beyond the custody and control of the parent;
The youth is over the age of 16.

 

[stealth2]

Your parents can also take out a restraining order against your friend to keep her away from you. If she ignores it, there will be legal consequences for her.