Shannon&Fuad
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I live in Iowa and my "father" lives in Nevada.
I haven't spoken with my "father" for a year now and he called me yesturday. I do not have any love or respect for him as my "father", because I do not consider him my father. I have created a beautiful life for myself without any love or support from him, and I do not plan to allow him to be any part of what I have created or what my fiance and I may create in the future, now or ever. I planned to keep the conversation simple and short, but once I told my "father" about how I felt, he began to make rude comments about my "deceased" mother, as if she were alive and here to defend herself. I told him that what he said to me and what he may continue to say to me, concerning my mother, had no effect on me, because I know that my mother always provided me with all the love and support that he was unable and unwilling to provide me with. He then proceeded to tell me that my mother was and still is a bitch that he should have never gotten involved with, because then I, "a mistake", never would have been conceived and born. I then told him that the only waste of human being on this earth is him, and that PRISON, not jail, should be his permanent residence for all the pain and suffering that he caused not only me, but many others as well. When I was a week old, my "father" went to prison for rapping a child, and when he was released, he went back to prison a month later for breaking and entering into my grandparent's home and stealing most of their personal belongings, and now, he is in and out of jail for pitty reasons. When my mother passed away, I was 12, and I began receiving Social Security checks, and I was too young to cash the checks myself, so my "father" would come visit me and tell my guardians that he was going to take me out to eat, but he actually took me to cash my checks each and every time, and when the visits were over, I would have $20 out of $150 to spend on my personal belongings. I HATE HIM! Then, he told me that once he comes back to Iowa from Nevada, which will be too soon, he is going to "kill" my fiance (of four years). So, I ended the conversation by saying that if he made any attempt to contact us or harm us in any way, he would be spending much time in jail, because I am going to issue a restraining order against him. I also told him that once Monday morning rolls around, I am going to change my last name to my mother's maiden name, because I am too ashamed to have his last name and I have never been a Frederick, I have always and will always be a Ginther! So, if any of you know the process of restraining orders or changing last names, please contact me at [email protected] or respond to this post by answering the following questions ASAP! Thank you, Shannon
1. How can I begin the process of issuing a restraining order against my "father"?
2. Would there be a court hearing, and will I have to convince the Judge that a restraining order is greatly needed? And, will my "father" have to appear for the hearing?
3. How do I begin the process of changing my last name?
4. Although I am now of legal age to make my own decisions, do I still need my parent's consent to change my last name to my mother's maiden name?
Any help would be much appreciated! THANK YOU ALL!
I haven't spoken with my "father" for a year now and he called me yesturday. I do not have any love or respect for him as my "father", because I do not consider him my father. I have created a beautiful life for myself without any love or support from him, and I do not plan to allow him to be any part of what I have created or what my fiance and I may create in the future, now or ever. I planned to keep the conversation simple and short, but once I told my "father" about how I felt, he began to make rude comments about my "deceased" mother, as if she were alive and here to defend herself. I told him that what he said to me and what he may continue to say to me, concerning my mother, had no effect on me, because I know that my mother always provided me with all the love and support that he was unable and unwilling to provide me with. He then proceeded to tell me that my mother was and still is a bitch that he should have never gotten involved with, because then I, "a mistake", never would have been conceived and born. I then told him that the only waste of human being on this earth is him, and that PRISON, not jail, should be his permanent residence for all the pain and suffering that he caused not only me, but many others as well. When I was a week old, my "father" went to prison for rapping a child, and when he was released, he went back to prison a month later for breaking and entering into my grandparent's home and stealing most of their personal belongings, and now, he is in and out of jail for pitty reasons. When my mother passed away, I was 12, and I began receiving Social Security checks, and I was too young to cash the checks myself, so my "father" would come visit me and tell my guardians that he was going to take me out to eat, but he actually took me to cash my checks each and every time, and when the visits were over, I would have $20 out of $150 to spend on my personal belongings. I HATE HIM! Then, he told me that once he comes back to Iowa from Nevada, which will be too soon, he is going to "kill" my fiance (of four years). So, I ended the conversation by saying that if he made any attempt to contact us or harm us in any way, he would be spending much time in jail, because I am going to issue a restraining order against him. I also told him that once Monday morning rolls around, I am going to change my last name to my mother's maiden name, because I am too ashamed to have his last name and I have never been a Frederick, I have always and will always be a Ginther! So, if any of you know the process of restraining orders or changing last names, please contact me at [email protected] or respond to this post by answering the following questions ASAP! Thank you, Shannon
1. How can I begin the process of issuing a restraining order against my "father"?
2. Would there be a court hearing, and will I have to convince the Judge that a restraining order is greatly needed? And, will my "father" have to appear for the hearing?
3. How do I begin the process of changing my last name?
4. Although I am now of legal age to make my own decisions, do I still need my parent's consent to change my last name to my mother's maiden name?
Any help would be much appreciated! THANK YOU ALL!