Over night visits

[missdd22]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca.

In May, my ex will start having over night visits with our daughter. Since he lives 6 hours away, and our daughter is in school (she is 6yrs old) the over nights have to be here in town. They are taking place at NCP's girlfriends aunts house. When I asked my ex who lives in that house, he said he "won't provide me any information, because the judge approved it, since he (the judge) knows the aunt."

Do I have a right to know the names of the people living in the house where my daughter will be doing her overnight visits with her dad? I have the aunts name, but he mentioned that there are 3 other adults living in that house.

Being around her dad is still very new to her. And overnights will be tough in the beginning just like the visits have been. She hasn't had an overnight with him since we lived together in 2004, not my choice...he chose to not exercise his visitation for years.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Ohiogal]

No. You do not have the right to know the names of everyone in aunt's house.

 

[truebluemd]

No you have no right to invade on Aunt or the other people in the house. Dad is dad and child will be with dad .

Honestly, do you really need this info? You know the address and the homeowners name. You cant do a background check on every single person your kid comes into contact with. Let go of some of that control or it will kill you.

 

[truebluemd]

Being around her dad is still very new to her. And overnights will be tough in the beginning just like the visits have been. QUOTE]

she will get over it quickly. if dad is a good dad, it wont take long

 

[missdd22]

I figured I was just being controlling. I am still working on letting things like this go...eventually I will be able to let it go. It's better to hear it on here, than from a judge.

What made me frustrated is how he threw in "the judge approved it b/c he knows the aunt" part....like they have special treatment...The judge did say he knows the GF's sister when we werein court...he didn't state why, but I am guessing he was the judge who took her kids away because of her meth problems

 

[truebluemd]

I figured I was just being controlling. I am still working on letting things like this go...eventually I will be able to let it go. It's better to hear it on here, than from a judge.

What made me frustrated is how he threw in "the judge approved it b/c he knows the aunt" part....like they have special treatment...The judge did say he knows the GF's sister when we werein court...he didn't state why, but I am guessing he was the judge who took her kids away because of her meth problems

Yeah, and you should not give in to his bragging, or whatever. Its meant to make you mad. Don't give in to that. Your concern is that you follow the order, that dd goes away happy and healthy, and is returned happy and healthy. Trust me, I go through and it works for me. Just ask yourself, is it really a big deal? If not, let it go, cause its wasted stress.

 

[missdd22]

she will get over it quickly. if dad is a good dad, it wont take long

Thank you, I hope she does get over it quickly...he's only had 2 weekends so far. I just have to have patience, and keep encouraging her that this is great to have him in her life.