FamilyDrama2024
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What is the name of your state? MO
A little backstory. My sister, against advice but wanting to help out, agreed back in 2017 to purchase a house and let my brother live in it. He and his wife were divorcing and due to a very unique situation with some weird issues with the way the mortgage was processed for their marital home, he was able to live in their marital home after his wife left for 7 years without a house payment (the mortgage on THAT house was also not in his name, only his wife's). During that 7 years, my brother never once tried to put away any money or pay off any debt to put himself in a financially secure position for the inevitable day that the mortgage company would finally be able to foreclose on the house. Which is when he begged my sister to help him out and she stupidly agreed. She obtained a mortgage on the house, and he pays the house payment. They did have to initially do a construction loan because the house needed a kitchen (it had been gutted by previous owner/investor and never replaced before investor ran out of money and put house up for sale). My brother did do most of the work. The agreement was, after a year, he was to then to "buy" the house from her. He still has not fulfilled his end of their agreement to this day, because he's still financially irresponsible.
Fast forward to present day....my sister and her fiance broke up and she was forced to find a place to live very quickly, and was able to take over my mom's rental home, but the split created a financial disaster for her, and she's now about $25K in debt. She was told by her connection at the bank that holds the mortgage that due to the fact that the house has over $100K in equity, she would not be able to file a Chapter 7 bankruptcy to relieve her debt. She also advised my sister that if she DOESN'T file bankruptcy, and doesn't pay the creditors, the creditors will most likely put liens against the mortgage, which means, she wouldn't be able to sell without paying those liens off, nor could my brother be able to purchase the house for what is owed currently. She did speak with a BK attorney on a basic consultation call and that attorney basically said the same thing as the bank employee. That BK attorney hasn't seen any of her actual financial documents/debts to give her more in depth advice.
My sister is considering a HELOC on the house to pay off her debt (the payment would be considerably less than making the payments to her creditors), and my brother is throwing a huge fit. He's still not in any financial situation another 7 years later, to buy the house from my sister. He's also telling her she's wrong that she can't file BK with that much equity in the house, and refuses to understand that since the house is not her primary residence, it's treated differently.
I also feel like if she tried to sell the house to my brother for what is owed, and then later filed BK, she could get accused of BK fraud for selling it for much less than market value, especially since it would be sold to a family member. Technically, since he would not qualify, he tossed around the idea of having his ex wife buy the house for him. My sister told him she would sell the house to our ex sister in law for $160K (the payoff is $130K plus $30K to pay off her debt) and that's still not satisfactory for him.
Honestly, she's nicer to me, because the moment he started throwing a tantrum and name calling, etc, I would have listed the house for $300K (it appraised for $330K) and too bad, so sad, should have had his life together. He can go buy a different house with his ex and my sister could actually live in the house SHE owns and save herself $400 a month in rent.
I guess my question is, is the bank employee and the advice from the BK attorney correct (my brother says they're both wrong and the bank employee is a liar) and what would YOU do in my sister's position?
A little backstory. My sister, against advice but wanting to help out, agreed back in 2017 to purchase a house and let my brother live in it. He and his wife were divorcing and due to a very unique situation with some weird issues with the way the mortgage was processed for their marital home, he was able to live in their marital home after his wife left for 7 years without a house payment (the mortgage on THAT house was also not in his name, only his wife's). During that 7 years, my brother never once tried to put away any money or pay off any debt to put himself in a financially secure position for the inevitable day that the mortgage company would finally be able to foreclose on the house. Which is when he begged my sister to help him out and she stupidly agreed. She obtained a mortgage on the house, and he pays the house payment. They did have to initially do a construction loan because the house needed a kitchen (it had been gutted by previous owner/investor and never replaced before investor ran out of money and put house up for sale). My brother did do most of the work. The agreement was, after a year, he was to then to "buy" the house from her. He still has not fulfilled his end of their agreement to this day, because he's still financially irresponsible.
Fast forward to present day....my sister and her fiance broke up and she was forced to find a place to live very quickly, and was able to take over my mom's rental home, but the split created a financial disaster for her, and she's now about $25K in debt. She was told by her connection at the bank that holds the mortgage that due to the fact that the house has over $100K in equity, she would not be able to file a Chapter 7 bankruptcy to relieve her debt. She also advised my sister that if she DOESN'T file bankruptcy, and doesn't pay the creditors, the creditors will most likely put liens against the mortgage, which means, she wouldn't be able to sell without paying those liens off, nor could my brother be able to purchase the house for what is owed currently. She did speak with a BK attorney on a basic consultation call and that attorney basically said the same thing as the bank employee. That BK attorney hasn't seen any of her actual financial documents/debts to give her more in depth advice.
My sister is considering a HELOC on the house to pay off her debt (the payment would be considerably less than making the payments to her creditors), and my brother is throwing a huge fit. He's still not in any financial situation another 7 years later, to buy the house from my sister. He's also telling her she's wrong that she can't file BK with that much equity in the house, and refuses to understand that since the house is not her primary residence, it's treated differently.
I also feel like if she tried to sell the house to my brother for what is owed, and then later filed BK, she could get accused of BK fraud for selling it for much less than market value, especially since it would be sold to a family member. Technically, since he would not qualify, he tossed around the idea of having his ex wife buy the house for him. My sister told him she would sell the house to our ex sister in law for $160K (the payoff is $130K plus $30K to pay off her debt) and that's still not satisfactory for him.
Honestly, she's nicer to me, because the moment he started throwing a tantrum and name calling, etc, I would have listed the house for $300K (it appraised for $330K) and too bad, so sad, should have had his life together. He can go buy a different house with his ex and my sister could actually live in the house SHE owns and save herself $400 a month in rent.
I guess my question is, is the bank employee and the advice from the BK attorney correct (my brother says they're both wrong and the bank employee is a liar) and what would YOU do in my sister's position?